Valentine’s Day is meant to celebrate love. Remember when we were little and everyone received cards from everyone? No one was in relationships and yet we were all happy and felt special. However, as we enter our later years Valentine’s Day becomes a day dedicated to self-loathing for those who are still single.
We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and focus on what makes us happy. Maybe we are perfectly happy being single or maybe we won’t find the great love our life until later. This is all okay. What is most important is being true to ourselves and realizing what makes us happy. Who says we can’t send ourselves flowers this Valentine’s Day? Who says we have to be miserable if we are single?
I didn’t find the love of my life until my late 40’s. I knew what I wanted and waited patiently until I found the real deal. I had a list of traits that were important to me and at one point I even drew a picture of what I was looking for, and it turned out to be a surprising likeness to the man that is now my husband. However, if it hadn’t have been for countless ex’s and single Valentine’s Days, I wouldn’t have learned how to truly love myself and appreciate everything I have. You can be happy this Valentine’s Day and here is how:
- Realize you are totally amazing. Letting anyone’s negativity get to you is totally pointless. You are awesome and the more wholeheartedly you believe this, the better off you will be. Try creating little reminders for yourself. For example, hang a sign or put up an index card that says, “You are Beautiful” or “You Rock!” Look in the mirror and compliment yourself on your best traits. Studies show that you can affect your body’s chemistry on a molecular level based on how you think about yourself. The way you think can change the way you feel.
- Make lists to help inspire positive thoughts. Try making a list of five things that you are grateful for or five things that you love about yourself and post the list somewhere where you will see it everyday, like on the fridge. Gratitude goes a long way and when you remember all the things you have to be grateful for, you are bond to be happier.
- Write down what is important. If you really want a relationship, make a list of what qualities or traits you are looking for in a partner. Try drawing a picture and really sitting down and thinking and visualizing what a great relationship would look like. Don’t settle, be patient and you never know when love might come into your life. However, if you don’t know what you are looking for you might just miss it.
- Become your own number one. You are totally worth it and you should be your own number one. If you really want flowers, why don’t you send them to yourself? Or plan to exchange flowers with a friend? You are totally worth it, so if Valentine’s Day has a way of getting you down then focus on treating yourself because you are awesome and deserve all the spoils!
- Remember it’s all about karma. Giving back is an excellent way to make yourself feel better this Valentine’s Day. In addition, why not try committing a random act of kindness? Send Valentine’s Day cards to strangers or let your co-workers know how much you care about them. Send an email to your best friend telling him/her all the ways they make you feel special. Valentine’s Day is all about love and it can come from many different sources.
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Kelly Walsh, M.Ed, ACC is the president of 1 Smart Life. Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coach and mediation certifications, and 20 years of Human Resources experience, she has successfully helped others define their dreams and create pathways to success. She is the creator and owner of 1 Smart Life, LLC a new style of personal coaching with a team of experts in all of life’s challenging areas.