Female intuition seems to be getting all the glory these days. The fact that it’s got its own name speaks for itself. Does it warrant its royal status? What about male intuition? If I’m a guy, does it mean I’m less intuitive or not intuitive at all?
The stereotype
The North American interpretation of Yin-Yang seems to be quite literal. If you’re a female, you possess a certain set of abilities, intuition taking the podium. If you’re a male, you have none of the female gifts, but you are well endowed with your own, unique to males, qualities. While there is some scientific support for some cognitive differences between males and females, focusing on them, in my opinion, caused a great deal of disservice to both parties.
The truth
As I have written in my “The Wife Always Knows”: Myth or Truth? The Work of Intuition in Relationships article, neuroscience gave us great clues about intuition. While explaining the underpinning of our “something’s wrong” or “Eureka!” moments, none of the articles I’ve read distinguished between male and female capacity for such experiences. In fact, the general ability to collect vast amounts of information and establish patterns unconsciously belongs to the HUMAN brain.
What is intuition?
To reiterate the point, let me go through the steps of how intuition works. Imagine a stealth radar quietly surveying the field at all times and collecting data about it. At some point, the radar collects enough data to start making sense of it. Eventually, it establishes a pattern. The pattern exists because certain things happen in a predictable manner. When the pattern is broken, we have a feeling about it, which we refer to as intuition.
Intuitive communication
We all have this marvelous function of our brain to raise alarm when something is off. It is achieved through the activation of our warning system, which fires up the adrenal glands and produces:
- increased heart beat,
- more laboured breathing,
- tight muscles and
- sweaty palms.
Research showed that people who are more in-tune with their heart beat and other physiological signs of stress are better able to make decisions intuitively. (Notice, the research did not differentiate between men and women.)
Example
For instance, your garbage truck comes at 6:30 a.m. every Wednesday, and you have learnt to talk yourself down from getting upset because the truck wakes you up with its noise. Today is Wednesday, and you woke up and thought to yourself, “Something is different. Something is not right.” Your intuition gave you the heads up because the pattern was broken – the truck didn’t come.
Case for female intuition
Somewhere in my readings, I did come across a couple of points that might explain why female intuition is leaving us guys in the dust (seemingly).
- It’s not that the female brain codes the information differently, but perhaps what is paid attention to is somewhat different.It was suggested that as traditional primary care-givers women have been wired to recognize and interpret signs of distress from their young better than men.In addition, since women have been long surviving in the male-dominant culture, they needed to be more attuned to their environment.
Consider this study, for instance, that found that women outperform men in identifying emotions such as fear and disgust.
As a result of these evolutionary and socio-cultural differences, women became better at collecting and interpreting signals from people around them thus increasing their intuitive capacity.
- Stemming from a similar cultural argument is another explanation for the preference for female intuition.Since women are traditionally socialized to be in-tune with their feelings and to express them more freely than men, when they experience inner alarm, they are more able to notice it, verbalize it and even act on it.
Final thoughts
Countering the above argument, one could refer to endless examples – from Albert Einstein to Steve Jobs – of men crediting their intuition for their discoveries, achievements and accomplishments.
Granted, those examples apply more to the world of business and science than intimate relationships, but I have a feeling – call it male intuition – the world is changing… for both sexes.
P.S. For more on intuition from an experiential point of view, check out Simply Spirit: A Personal Guide to Spiritual Clarity, One Insight at a Time. It has a whole chapter devoted to intuition.
i think u confusing intuition with empathy.you are way off here.intuition in itself is information that is subconsciously formulated.empathy is the ability to monitor ques in body language and behavior put yourself in that persons shoes feel what they feel and thus understand how they feel and even their intentions since emotion motivates action.dont confuse the subconsious processes of the brain with empathy even automatic empathy
Of course we all can have intuition. Some men are born with skills to perform tasks, delicate tasks in which they can exceed many women. Some men are born with the gift of songwriting which is a very delicate gift.
Some men can be excellent, world-renowned chefs in other words they can be better cooks than many women, etc.