Before emotional intimacy comes back to a relationship, the basics of love should be discussed. Was there true emotional connection to begin with, what do people really understand about emotions, and the most important question of all, what is love? Everyone experiences love differently and has various thermostats to gauge love. One might describe love…
Married couples, not infrequently, are faced with this challenging dynamic, where one partner is controlling in the relationship and has an investment in keeping control. This could be over finances, lifestyle issues and even sex. With men, this can take the form of bullying their wives emotionally and worse case physically. For controlling women, the…
When my wife and I moved to the Bay Area, we were immediately knee deep in the startup world. I founded my startup, RentLingo, in the last year of business school and my wife joined NatureBox as their first. In the past couple of years, we’ve learned how to adjust to the demands of startup…
Yes, emotional intimacy can be resurrected. Even after it has seemingly died. Even for couples who describe high levels of connection and love, interpersonal bonds can erode and seemingly disappear. Usually the erosion happens slowly over time, like mountains carved out by unforgiving winds and storms that tirelessly batter their majestic peaks and slopes. At…
A baby is a wrecking ball~the world’s cutest wrecking ball. I mean that figuratively, of course. But science across decades is clear: About two in three couples are permanently less happy once a child is born—with major increases in loneliness, fighting, and hostility. And they stay that way until the last child launches. The data…
Gaslighting is a colloquial term created in reference to the theatrical adaptation of a play, Gas Light, to a film starring Ingmar Bergman called Gaslight. The plot involves a a husband who tries to make his wife think she’s nuts. Today, the term “gaslighting” has been created to refer to relationship dynamics where one person…
