Are They Not Interested in Dating, Or Are Just Playing Hard to Get?

Are They Not Interested in Dating, Or Are Just Playing Hard to Get?Q:  How can you tell when someone says they don’t want to go out if you should move on, or are just playing hard to get?

 A:  Girls who still subscribe to “the rules” may be playing hard to get.  The rules said you had to put a guy off and make him work for it.  In my opinion you only need to do that with players.  But I do believe that a girl needs to keep an active social life and never cancel plans for a date, she just shouldn’t  pretend that’s the case if it’s not.  So if she said she didn’t want to go out because she had other things to do, then I’d ask one more time.  But if she turns you down a second time let her know you won’t be asking again.  Say something like, “Ok, well let me know if you’d like to go out sometime.  I’ll leave it up to you now.”  However, I do think most of the time if someone says they don’t want to go out it’s because they don’t.  Now, having said that, confidence is very attractive and by asking one more time you may win her over.  She might just be on the fence about whether she wants to go out with you or not.  Think of something fun to do and ask her to do that with you.  I was at a party once and a guy asked me to go ice-skating in Central Park with him.  I wasn’t really sure if I liked him but I had never done that and thought it sounded fun.  So I went—and got to know him better.  If you’re not sure if she’s interested in you, see if you can get her interested in doing something specific.  Then if she still says no don’t waste any more time or energy on her.  Unfortunately a lot of people have very lose boundaries and have a hard time saying no.  So what may seem like playing hard to get to you might really just be a lack of healthy boundaries.

And if you’re a girl asking a guy out, you’re taking the masculine role.  If he’s a masculine energy man the very fact that you’re doing to asking is probably what’s turning him off.

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  1. Are They Not Interested in Dating, Or Are Just Playing Hard to Get? I personally suspect it may be a situation where there’s simply not as much of an urgency as in years past. Men have many more ways to entertain themselves in today’s modern culture with digital technology as well as an overall abundance of women – married and unmarried. We’re no longer living in an age where women reserve intimacy for marriage or even for that special person that is fully committed, This I believe has resulted in very lacked attitudes. We have to realize that marriage is no longer the primary objective for dating resulting in a variety of intimate relationships with varied expectations and no promise of commitment ore permanence. So, we have no other choice but to decide how we’ll personally conduct ourselves given the conditions we find ourselves in.

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