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Why Online Dating Is More Difficult For Men

March 8, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Online dating is big business, it has become very popular over the past few years. Millions of men and women turn to online dating each year hoping to find their ideal partner. The majority of dating services on the net have much more male than female members. Every year millions of men join online dating services in an effort to meet compatible women, without risking the rejection they may get if they were face to face.


Because there are more men than women sometimes it can be very difficult for the men because the odds are stacked so heavily against them. Based on a study which was done 5 years ago by Jupiter Research, men are 4 times more likely to subscribe to an online dating service than women. Men are twice as likely to post, browse, and respond to profiles. This is obviously a good thing for the women.


Men can be successful finding love online however, it will take quite a bit of time and effort to make it work. The men who are usually successful are the ones who make their profiles stand out. This can be done by adding a nice picture, and having a well written profile. It is very important that there are no typos or grammatical errors in the profiles.


For men who are looking for a compatible partner it is best for them to use as many mediums as possible rather than relying solely on online dating. Lots of men are successful finding love in a social setting, for example some men enjoy going to church, bars, clubs, parties, or even the grocery store to find a compatible partner.


For a confident man approaching an attractive woman and striking up a conversation at a social event is easy. For a shy man who may be lacking a bit of confidence it’s very difficult to approach a woman. It’s usually the fear of rejection which makes it difficult for a shy man to approach a woman.


Thus shy men are more likely to turn to online dating to find a partner rather than going to a social event. Building confidence takes time and practice, the only way to become more comfortable approaching women is by doing it.


If you are shy it’s very important that you try to overcome it, because the benefits outweigh the risk.

You will achieve success through the process of trial and error.

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Five Tips That Men Should Know for Writing an Outstanding Online Dating Profile

March 6, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

When dating online, you must go through the process of writing a profile. Most questions are multiple choice, but there is always a section where you can pretty much write anything you want about yourself and about who you would like to date.

This section is very popular, and serious women who really want to find someone special in their lives do spend time reading it before contacting a prospect.

When dating online, it is very important to write a good essay about yourself and about who you are looking for. Those men who spend the time to come up with an essay that stands out from the crowd do get better results, more responses to their ads, and also more interesting women contacting them.

The key to getting women to make the first step toward contacting you online is to have an outstanding profile ad.

Here are five tips any man should follow to ensure the success of his online dating profile.

Have a good recent photo of yourself. Lots of women online do not even look at profiles or respond to ads that do not have photos. One reason for this is that women more than men are often solicited first by their admirers. That gives them the choice to respond to a lot of people. Why respond to a profile without a photo, an unknown, if you have three other messages in your in-box with photos?

Make sure the photo shows only you and is of good quality. Use a photo in which you can be seen clearly, one that makes you look your best. Most important, make sure it is recent and not a 10-year-old photo.

Find out who you are. Think about it. What kind of person are you? How do people perceive you? How do your friends describe you? Look at yourself through somebody else’s eyes. Ask your friends why they enjoy being your friends and how they perceive you. You might be surprised at their answers. You can use all this information when describing yourself in your profile essay.

Find out what you want. Do you want to get married and raise a family, or are you looking for a casual date at the moment? What kind of women do you like: extroverted or introverted? independent? professional? family-oriented or party-oriented? Take some time to figure this out before writing your profile. That will increase the quality of the women who reply to your ad, since only those who see themselves in your description will contact you. In return, you will be happier knowing that the prospect who is contacting you corresponds to what you want.

Be honest. This is one reason why you should be sure to put a recent picture on your profile. It is all about honesty. Don’t lie about your age, body type, status, or anything else. You don’t want to end up in a situation later where you have to clarify and justify one or several lies you put in your profile ad. That may just turn off your date and get you back to square one.

Be specific. Don’t be general when writing your profile. For example, don’t write: “I like to watch movies.” That does not say anything about you, and pretty much everyone likes to watch movies anyway. Instead, be more specific and creative.

You could, for example, write: “I am a fan of westerns, so I have seen almost all the old classic western movies featuring Clint Eastwood and John Wayne.” You see the difference? The first statement can apply to anyone, while the second reveals something about you (and is also more interesting to read).

You could also write: “Being a typical geek, a nerdy type of man, I sometimes slither up from the darkness of my basement to go watch science-fiction movies.” Since humor and creativity are often a huge turn-on for women, it is always good to laugh at yourself and be original when writing your profile essay.

Follow these five important tips when writing a profile and you will surely increase your chances of success when dating online.

David Roy has over ten years experience working for dating websites. He is a writer on Ebook-Relationship.com and the author of “How to Meet Women Online“. Learn how to effectively use dating websites to meet the right woman for you at http://www.GetGirlsOnline.com right now.

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The Keys to Successful Dating for Men

March 6, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

The keys to successful dating for men


Dating is probably one of the most exciting yet daunting adventures any single individual might ever encounter. Traditional datingmeeting up, going out and eating outwith somebody you are interested with can be a challenge as well as a learning experience for everyone.


More than the women, men feel more pressured when going out on a date because they are expected to do almost everything to make the date a success. Since they are the ones who will carry out most of the so-called “dating tasks” here are some tips that can help men go through with the exciting process of dating the girl they are interested with.


BARING THE BASIC DATING ESSENTIALS


Dating can be a daunting task especially for those men who haven’t dated for a long time, for those who haven’t been successful with women, and even for those guys who are so used to dating without knowing the basic rules in playing the game.


Remember, people need conform the rules whether they like it or not. In the case of dating, there are simple rules that need to be followed to ensure success for both parties.


1.Ensure cleanliness by keeping on eye on your hygiene and style. The worst thing any man can do is to turn up on a date smelling, unshaven, and looking dirty so the first thing you should do is to take a bath, brush your teeth, and shave those stubborn stubbles. Men who do not know how to maintain hygiene are no-nos for the more hygienic sex. So it pays to spray on some decent cologne and gargle before you meet up with your date.

2.Dress up to look your best. Looking your best when you go out on a date gives the idea that you have prepared for the special occasion even if it’s only a first date. If you don’t have enough dough to buy new shoes or clothes, at least try to wear those decent ones to impress your date.

3.Be on time. The first impression of women is usually based on how much men value their time. If you ask a woman on a date, make sure that you can turn up on time because not doing so will give her the impression that you don’t value your word. If you don’t want your date to think you are unreliable, try be early or at least on time when going out on a date.

4.Before asking someone out, make sure you have a job to flaunt. Women always find security in men you are secured themselves. Although financial stability is too early to discuss, your current job will give her an idea if you can manage dating her for a long time. Men who have jobs give women the impression that they are ambitious and they have the will to go on top.

5.Do all the necessary preparations. Preparing for things you can say during the date will ensure the easy flow of conversation all throughout. Getting your knowledge levels up and sharing it with your date will definitely make her date interested. The safest topic to discuss includes current events so make sure you watch the news or read quality broadsheets.

6.Know when to stop talking and start listening. Opening up topics for a conversation will pave the way for an interesting intellectual stimulation but you must know when the ice has been broken. After you have given your thoughts on a certain topic, ask her what she thinks and listen to her intently.

7.Issues on bills. The general rule in dating is that whoever asks for that date should pay for it. Since you are the one who asked for and you are the man, then, by all means, you should pay the bill. But if the idea of your paying for the entire bill does not sit well to the woman you’re dating and she insists paying for her own, make a compromise. Suggest that she pays the half and you’ll pay for the rest.

8.Being a gentleman pays. Simple things that show your gentleness like holding the door open for her, letting her walk through the door first, and pulling out a chair for her will definitely make an impact on her. Showering her compliments throughout the day will also make her think that you appreciate her efforts of looking good for the date.

9.Watch out for body language. After the date, watch out for her body language before attempting to kiss her goodnight or before trying to seduce her to jump into your bed. Sex on first date is not a good thing unless she wants to. Lastly, don’t tell her that you’ll call her if you don’t have plans of doing so.

10.If you are serious in the woman you’re dating, start learning how to live a healthy life. Smoking and drinking only show irresponsibility and carelessness because you are not taking care of your health.

Dr Nathalie Fiset is a family doctor and a certified hypnotherapist. For more information go to: http://www.soulmatestogether.com/personals.html www.aperfectharmony.com or www.a-1hypnosis.com

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Divorced Guys – #1 How To Be A Hit With Women

March 2, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Youâ??ve just been through an unpleasant divorce and back on the single scene. What do you do? By avoiding unnecessary mistakes you can really enjoy the experience. It doesnâ??t have to be intimidating. It should be fun, a whole new adventure.  Here are some tips to help you avoid making the mistakes that you hear other single guys complaining about.

Part 1 of 7 series

If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates:  First of all ask questions, not personal ones but topics such as her favourite hobbies, interests, sports, TV shows, movies she has seen. Ask her to tell you about her first car; ask her about the rings she is wearing on her fingers; how does she travel to work and even about her friends. That should keep her going for the entire meeting.

There is a little trick you can learn. Keep your own library of topics that you can bring up. Amusing stories, we all have them, but it is impossible to think of them when you are stretched anyway, on new territory and trying to get everything right.

Write a list of your favourite stories and amusing incidents. Once you have written down the topics you will remember some of them when you need them. You donâ??t need too many because she wants to get a word in here and there. I went out with a guy who had all his favourite stories ready for me. We couldnâ??t have a conversation because he had story after story. His stories were probably good ones but they were all men type stories about the armed forces that didnâ??t interest me. I was wondering how I would ever switch him off.

I was feeling that he was taking no interest in me while he was reeling off his stories verbatim. I was right. It turned out that the relationship was all about him. Donâ??t let the conversation follow a path that makes you look as though you are not interested in her.

Also try to remember what she told you. If you can refer to her discussion next time you meet she will be delighted. Women love men who can remember what they have told them and call them when they say they will, oh and arrive on time.

Here are the things you must not discuss even if she asks you about them: Other women, your â??exâ??, your children, complaints of any kind including other women youâ??ve met or your mother and especially about work, anything negative, house work and shopping. No one wants to hear complaints or about your negative attitude, and the average career woman would be bored to tears hearing you talk about housework or shopping. If she asks you why your marriage ended, have a 5 word sentence ready then change subject. People pretend they are interested but they are not.

Remember a very important fact, just because people ask you doesnâ??t mean you should tell them. Manage the conversation to ensure itâ??s fun and interesting but not personal.

Read Dial A Woman.  Chapter 2 has tips on what to say. You can purchase it on line as an e-book.

Dating Tips for  Divorced Guys. The Complete Series is available at www.articlesbase.com and includes:

1    If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates

2    How to avoid baggage creeping into exciting new dating

3    Seduction Can Be Easy

4    Clothes Maketh the Man

5    Beware! Donâ??t leave yourself open to be tricked, fooled or conned

6    Remember the manners you used when you were just out of high school

7 Donâ??t rush into the next relationship

Rosalind Baker is Principal of Entre Nous Introduction Service To find out your personality type; or  “Are you ready for a relationship?”: Books by Rosalind Baker (nee Neville) Dial A Woman, Dial A Man & Dial A Personality: www.singles.net.au

Rosalind Baker’s professional commitment to ‘match making’ is well into its second decade, although she has always possessed that innate ability to pair people off. She even introduced her ex-husband to his next wife!
Having established Entre Nous: Relationship Consultants & Educators in 1991 she has now lost count of the number of relationships the organisation has helped to establish.
While there have been many ‘fly-by-night’ introduction agencies over the past two decades in Melbourne, Entre Nous has stood the test of time. This is due, in no small part, to the professionalism and passion of Rosalind Baker.
She has written three best sellers. The first, ‘Dial A Woman’ offers advice to Australian men on how to choose the right partner and then maintain a successful relationship.
The obvious sequel, ‘Dial A Man’ advised women on how to recognise and attract the man of their dreams. While writing her third book, ‘Dial a Personality’, she realised she had discovered the successful formula for matching couples.
As a journalist Rosalind has written extensively on social affairs and women’s issues and is a well-known social commentator on courtship.
Rosalind has been the delegate representing Australian and New Zealand at the International Institute of Introduction Services.
She is a keen follower of the Arts and supports Opportunity International.
She had four children and with her new husband, Tom Baker, they now have 11 grandchildren between them.

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Worst Dating Mistakes Made by Men

March 1, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Have you experienced one of those dating evenings where everything looked perfect, but then she didn’t look interested in a second date? Maybe you were not so good as you thought!

This article discusses common mistakes that men make while dating girls. (Women’s mistakes while dating is theme for another article.)

1) Men try too much to impress. Usually men try to impress their date as much as possible, telling her about his nice car, how much he earns, how much he has achieved at work, etc. Don’t try to impress by what you have, instead try to show what you are.

2) Men drink too much. This mistake seems to be quite obvious. You shouldn’t drink too much and make you look like an alcoholic, even if she drinks a lot too! If you use to drink at dates because it makes you feel more comfortable and relaxed, try to do it with measure.

3) Men don’t listen to women. Men talk all night about themselves, and when she talks he doesn’t allow her to finish and interrupts her. Try changing appproach and you listen to her. Ask questions and show interest in her. Women love it!

One big mistake is going out and spending a lot of time on a cell phone or a blackberry. If it keeps ringing, turn it off. Let your voice mail take your calls.

4) Men are not chivalrous. Many men consider that being a gentlemen is something from the past that is no longer important, useful or appreciated by modern women. Well, they are wrong. Women still appreciate men who are gentlemen, opening and closing the car door for the woman is an easy way to earn points. Men shouldn’t exaggerate though.

5) Men fail to take initiative. Women dislike when men don’t have ideas to offer, or don’t show motivation. If she wants to go out and share some time with you, you should never say “I don’t know what to do!” Instead you should propose some dating ideas and ask her to choose from. You don’t have to come out with the best ideas in the world, just show that you are making an effort.

6) Telling lies. This is a common one, unfortunately. Never play games with women. Sooner or later you will be discovered and her disappointment will be big. Most women appreciate a man who is sincere and stands by his word and action, and treats others the way they would like to be treated.

Most men never want to admit their mistakes. Sometimes admitting a mistake just shows you’re brave enough to acknowledge it, but creating a million excuses will not play to your favor.

Of course this is only general advice, and since every male or female person are different, it’s up to the couple to make it understood what they want or prefer. Communication will finally help the couple progress in their relationship, or have it finished because of lack of compatibility.

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