10 Things you didn’t know about Texas divorces

Most peopleâ??s experience of divorce is limited to that which the media feeds them or from family and friends who may describe their case with biases.  The reality is that divorce can be a very complex issue.  While laws regarding divorce are the same across much of the United States, there are variations to divorce that apply specifically to Texas divorce cases. Here are 10 that you may not know about.

1. Alimony is not a sure thing.

If you were counting on getting alimony in your divorce, you should look again at the requirements. You will only be in consideration for alimony if either of the following situations is relevant to your divorce:

Your spouse committed and was convicted of a crime of family violence within the two years leading up to your filing for divorce or during your divorce. You marriage lasted 10 or more years and you donâ??t have the resources to meet your minimum living requirements You are unable to support yourself due to a physical or mental disability You are parent to a child or children who have physical or mental disabilities You lack the ability to hold a job and earn a living to support your minimum needs.

2. Joint custody does not necessarily mean equal time with both parents.

Unless a court decides a parent is fully or partially restricted from seeing their child, many child custody cases today result in joint custody. Joint physical custody is shared according to a court-ordered schedule.

In most states, joint physical custody creates an obligation to provide each of the parents with “significant periods” of physical custody so as to assure the child of “frequent and continuing contact” with both parents.

In Texas, joint custody orders do not always have to result in substantially equal parenting time. Courts have not clearly defined what “significant periods” and “frequent and continuous contact” mean, which requires that parents talk to their divorce attorneys and potentially litigate to find out.

3. Your child has a choice.

Any children who are at least 12 years of age may file with the court the name of the person who is to have the exclusive right to decide the primary residence of the child. However, their choice is still subject to the approval of the court and must be done in writing.

4. There is no legal separation in Texas.

Texas does not have specific provisions for a legal separation, but allows for temporary orders to be filed at the time the divorce is filed. In cases where the parties have filed for a divorce or annulment, they may also enter into a written agreement dividing joint property, dealing with the liabilities of each spouse, and awarding of spousal maintenance (alimony). This agreement may be revised or rejected before rendition of the divorce or annulment unless the agreement is found to be binding under another rule of law.

5. You wonâ??t get custody if you canâ??t be niceâ?¦ Among other factors.

The court will use the following guidelines when deciding how to award child custody:

Whether the physical, psychological, or emotional needs and development of the child will benefit from the appointment of joint managing conservators (two people, usually the parents, who are a childâ??s legal decision makers). The ability of the parents to give top priority to the welfare of the child and reach shared decisions in the child’s best interests. Whether each parent can encourage and accept a positive relationship between the child and the other parent. Whether both parents participated in child rearing before the filing of the suit. The geographical proximity of the parents’ residences. If the child is 12 years of age or older, the child can choose which adult has the exclusive right to designate their primary residence. Whether a parent is a flight risk. A parent that lacks financial reason to stay in the US and has strong familial, emotional, or cultural ties to another country, or if a the parent lacks strong US ties , regardless of having citizenship or permanent residency status in the US, may be denied custody.

6. Donâ??t worry; youâ??re not to blameâ?¦  Oh, and neither is your spouse.

Texas is a “no-fault” divorce state, which means you will be granted a divorce, without having to lay blame on your spouse. Your divorce can be based simply on the grounds that the marriage has become insupportable because of irreparable conflict or disparity between your personalities that prevents reconciliation.

However if you wish to, your lawyer can prepare a fault-based divorce case for you. Filing a fault-based case can be beneficial to your case and will be considered grounds for divorce if any of the following occurred in your marriage:

Cruelty Adultery Conviction of a felony Abandonment Living apart for at least three years Confinement in a mental hospital

7. There is a simple calculation to work out your child support payments.

The guidelines for the support of a child after divorce in the Texas legal code are specifically designed to apply to situations in which the obligor (the person who is obligated to pay) has monthly net resources of $6,000 or less. In these cases, the following schedule applies in rendering the child support order:

# of children

Percentage of obligor’s net resources

1

20%

2

25%

3

30%

4

35%

5

40%

6 +

Not less than the amount for 5 children

If the obligorâ??s net resources exceed $6,000 per month, the court shall presumptively apply the percentage guidelines to the first $6,000 of the obligorâ??s net resources. The court may order additional support in addition, depending on the childâ??s needs.

8. You need to live here to divorce here.

In order to file for divorce in Texas, either the petitioner or respondent must live in the state of Texas for at least six months, and reside in the county where the divorce is being filed for at least 90 days before filing the divorce petition.   Members of the military who are Texas residents but have spent time outside Texas while serving have more relaxed residency requirements.

9. Being intoxicated at the wedding may grant you an annulment.

Courts in Texas may grant an annulment of a marriage if at the time of the marriage the petitioner

(spouse applying for the annulment) was under the influence of alcoholic beverages or narcotics and as a result did not have the capacity to consent to the marriage; and the petitioner has not voluntarily cohabited with the other party since the effects of the alcoholic beverages or narcotics ended.

10. You canâ??t immediately take the plunge again.

  Except as otherwise provided for in the Texas family law code, (see your divorce lawyer for these exceptions), neither party to a divorce may marry a third party before the 31st day after the date the divorce is decreed. However, the former spouses involved in the current divorce may marry each other at any time.

Nichols Law is a team of family law attorneys in Houston, Texas. They provide services for divorce, child custody, estate planning, and all other areas of family law.

Ingredients Of A Great Date

The dating scene is full of mixed emotions. For some, it is a time of anxiety, worrying about impressing the other person. Hours may be spent planning, preparing, and primping one’s appearance in order to make that first date one that will be memorable, and hopefully, worthy of a second rendezvous.

Others may find dating a time of great anticipation. They eagerly wait until that time arrives, knowing that their partner is going to lavish them with attention, fun, and laughter. But have you ever wondered what makes a great date?

Of course, the first thought that comes to mind is the company. To have a great date, you obviously need to have two people that have a considerable amount of affection for each other. But once you have the right chemistry between two people, it is essential that the setting for the date is one that is sure to please.

Whether it is a restaurant, nightclub, museum, or a stroll on the beach, great dates require planning, yet they still must contain an element of surprise and spontaneity. There are three basic rules that you can use to ensure that your dates will be memorable, enjoyable, and worthy of a second meeting.

Key Rule #1 – Great dates don’t have to break the nank

It is important to make sure that you don’t overspend when planning your date. If you set your budget too high, then you may be creating unrealistic expectations in your partner. They may expect the same level of standard for each date, so be sure to adequately budget your date and leave the great expenses for special occasions. With that in mind, there are a number of ways that you can plan a great date and save money as well.

Planning a Picnic

A fantastic and not so expensive date is a picnic in a park. Packing your own picnic basket shows that you have really spent time preparing for the date. There are a number of variations that you can use with this date as well. For instance, you can plan a romantic picnic date at night and watch the sunset. Or, if your local park hosts concerts, you can enjoy your picnic, then stay for the concert or other local festivities. Always remember to bring a citronella candle to keep insects away. Another option is to plan the picnic together. You can go shopping for items for the picnic, this allows you to spend some one on one time and helps you learn more about each other’s preferences.

Key Rule #2 – First dates should allow for plenty of talking

Getting to Know Each Other

Many people make the mistake of going to the movies on the first date. This is not a good choice for a memorable great date. By the time the movie is over, you have lost two hours of quality time where you could have been talking and getting to know one another. A great alternative to the movie date is the Coffeehouse/Bookstore date. By spending your date in a coffeehouse you will have adequate time to converse. Browsing books is a great way to find out more about your dates interests, tastes, and preferences. Again, it isn’t very expensive and if you choose to have something to eat, you can do that as well. This date is perfect for an afternoon, and if all goes well, you may just be finding that your second date is later that evening.

Key Rule #3 – Active dates are fun!

Consider choosing an activity for your first date. Playing sports, boating, hiking, canoeing, or visiting a zoo are all wonderful ways to spend a first date. These dates enable you to learn more about each other, while taking some of the stress and pressure off. You are in a public place, yet can have a certain degree of privacy as you choose. If you both share a common interest in sports then attend a game followed by a nice dinner.

By remembering that great dates don’t generally need to be expensive, should allow for plenty of communication, and that the most important quality to having a great date is plenty of fun, you can ensure that your first date will be a success and many more will follow.

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. Use PlanJam.com to find more great date ideas and fun things to do.

Enjoying Romance with Toronto Dating

If you have Toronto dating in mind, know you have made the best choice when it comes to dating ideas. The city provides you with one of the best dating places that any couple anywhere in the world might not want to leave if they come dating to this Canadian city. With the best in romance in mind, the city seems to be welcoming visitors and more so its singles, who are not yet hooked up. The romantic variations of the city make it work wonderfully as the ultimate matchmaker. There is nothing like dating and finding the kind of relationship or single person for whom to go dating with.

If you have been in the city before and left without a date or without enjoying yourself, it must have been your attitude that denied you the chance to enjoy. You need to make sure that Toronto dating has left you with something you will never forget. It is very disheartening to know that the place you have lived for most of your time has given other people the chance to meet new friends, the chance to meet other singles and enjoy the best of romance and yet you left with nothing. You might have come for a holiday from another part of the nation, Ontario for instance.

Might be the people you came with all have dates and mates such that they didn’t care about your single nature by letting you be with other singles. Toronto dating just like any other type of romantic relationship is all about the singles and those who are having first dates. It can be something very diminishing and later disheartening if you left the city without changing anything in your relationship. The problem is visiting the city with a crowd rather than being yourself and coming round for the best time of your single life. You should go to Toronto and make the most of dating for the sake of your life.

The more you deny yourself the chance to enjoy dating in your area the more you will face problems that you might not look forward to. If you are a single woman and you still savor the moment you will meet that dating friend in your life, it is time to go Toronto dating. It might be one of the best decisions you have ever made. You need to try and meet as many singles as you can in the city. If you are an upward mobile career single woman, then you are visiting the best place you have ever been to.

Dating gives you the best of romance and affection to any single. If you want to let Toronto dating work for you, make sure you have avoided the lure of going out in a large crowd of females. It might be your downfall and you might not enjoy any moment of the proceedings. It is a high time you made yourself conspicuous and approachable, and shield of girls will always be keeping men away from you. You should make sure that it doesn’t happen to you, if men are your taste, that is.

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