Look as though you own the world: That is how you will feel when you have attacted the woman of your dreams so you may as well start looking like how you are going to feel.

The King of his castle holds his head up high, his back is straight and he takes large firm confident steps. He takes up room and makes his presence felt. Act confidently! Don’t close in, expand out. Spread your arms and your legs. People who cross their legs and hug their chest appear closed, mean and unsure of themselves.

Try not to look down it makes one appear to lack confidence. Walking and acting confidently will not only fool others but you will fool yourself too into believing you really are confident. Everyone admires confidence in others, especially women.

Give an impression of confidence by controlling your pace when walking: If you are excited or nervous it will show unless you really focus on walking slowly. By walking slowly and purposefully you will help to control your nerves as well as giving an impression of confidence.

Try to adopt a relaxed posture: Take a few deep breaths and breathe out slowly; it will help you to look more relaxed even if your stomach is churning inside. If you try to look relaxed you will become relaxed believe it or not – try it, you will be surprised and throw in a smile as you do it. Stiffness gives the wrong impression so work hard at looking cool. Do you fidget or wave your leg when you talk, bite your nails or any other irritating habits.

I heard of a girl who divorced a man after a month because she didn’t like his habits. Sit in front of mirror, get a pen and paper and write down any nervous habits you may have; while you are trying to think about it look in the mirror to see if you can see any irritating habits emerging. They will appear while you are trying to think.

Eye contact is a dead give away: You know yourself what you think of people who can’t look you in the eye. You won’t trust them. If you can’t look her in the eye she will think you are trying to hide something. How would you like her to think? “Is this guy planning to rape me?” Well she doesn’t know that what you are thinking or trying to hide.

The easiest way to look a woman in the eye is not to look her in the eye at all but look at her nose. She won’t know the difference and looking at her nose is less confronting for you. You must be able to makes eyes with a woman. A lot is said in a look so start by looking at her nose.

If she catches you looking at her, return her gaze with a smile. She will love it.

Smiling is important: If you have a nice smile you will be able to win women over regardless of the mistakes you make. Of course you have a nice smile, every smile is nice. It’s just that people forget to smile when they are nervous, worried or scared. When you smile you will find yourself relaxing. It is hard to be tense when you smile – unless it’s a fixed smile and she won’t want to see one of those. 

If you are serious or tense she may think: “Is he planning to rape me?”  Guys are inclined to look serious when they are trying very hard to get everything right, however you must learn to stop trying too hard so that you can relax and enjoy the experience. The suggestions you above will help you relax and make meeting women an enjoyable experience.

Laugh at yourself: People with a well developed sense of humour are able to laugh at themselves, their own mistakes and laugh in the face of adversity. If you miss the bus or can’t find a taxi firstly think of an alternative plan and then joke about it. Getting frustrated and angry will put her off really fast. Have the attitude: “Oh well we are in this together we may as well enjoy ourselves.” She will see how you live life when small hurdles arise. Show her how mature you are about small irritations. Laughter is supposed to be the best medicine so make use of it.

Look as though you are confident and enjoying yourself: Taking out women is a very pleasurable pastime so make sure you derive as much pleasure from it by acting confidently and looking as though you are enjoying yourself. 

Thomas Baker, Director, Entre Nous Dating Services Melbourne wwww.singles.net.au