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Precautions That You Should Take When Meeting Your Online Date in Person

April 4, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment


When participating in online dating, there are a lot of rules that you have to observe and follow if you want to be successful in your search for your dream partner. No matter how long and how many online conversations you have with your online date, the truth to the matter is that there are still tons of things that you have to know about the other person. Sure nothing beats the real face to face encounter, and to see the facial and bodily expressions of your date in real and actual setting. However, when meeting with your online flame in person, you should not be pushy. If you are a woman, do not ask the guys when they want to come and visit you. Wait till the guy talks about the idea of meeting you in person because if you do it too early, there is a big chance that the guy will lose interest in you and will eventually stop talking to you altogether.

If your online date ask you for your address or your phone number and you are not comfortable giving him this information you should say so politely and explain to him why you do not want to give him this information just yet. If he is a nice guy, he will definitely understand; however, if in this situation he shows some sense of irritation, that is a red flag and you should think twice about seeing him in person.

Another rule that you have to remember when it comes to online dating is that in order for you to become more comfortable in the presence of your date, it would be nice to talk on the phone first before you embark on meeting him on a more formal setting like having dinner in a restaurant. Talking on the phone is absolutely one of the best ways to first knowing your date. You can be able to sense and feel if the online and phone conversations have potential romantic connection in the future. Once you believe that this is a possibility, you should go for it!

When you have finally decided that you want to bring your online dating into a new and more serious level, and you think that the right time has arrived for you to meet your online date, the only one thing that you have to remember at all times is your safety. Sure, you are a big girl but being one does not guarantee that you will be safe in the hands of your date. Choose a public place such as your favorite restaurant or lounge where you know some of the regular people. When it comes to the time of the day, it would be safe to go sometime around afternoon and early evening; definitely no midnight date! It’s not a good idea to go to a remote location on your first date. You’re not being paranoid here. It is only logical that you take extra precautionary actions for your own safety.

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Different Types Of Blind Dating

March 11, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

It is amazing how the human mind works for a little novelty and thrilling experience. Now that all of us know about the various categories of dating, do you think we have had enough? Sometimes our thirst for something new and exhilarating makes us experiment with new ideas making us steer on the edge.


Ever heard of blind dates? You must have. It is not a new concept. Blind dating is a method of going out on dates with total strangers. You do not have any information regarding this person. You might be going out with your building janitor or for that matter, even with one of your friends parent.


Scary? It is, but for some it is equal to getting a high. Blind dates are usually of two types. The first type is that you are completely in the dark about your date with no information whatsoever. This form of blind dating could be dangerous and disappointing especially if that person does not measure up to your expectations.


The other type of blind date is when you have not met the person actually, but you know him through emails, chats and phone conversations. We give you a few blind dating fundamentals so that your date does not end in a disastrous way nor puts you in any awkward position


Have low expectations

Considering that you are going out on the second type of blind date, keep your expectations low till you meet the person. It may so happen that the deep throated voice or the seductive husky voice may be of a bald man or an overweight woman respectively. Keeping low expectations in the beginning will even help you to keep your frustrations at bay.


Do not prolong the meeting

When you meet this person fix a short duration for your meeting so that you can gracefully exit out, should you feel the need to escape from there.


Do not arrange for dinner or lunch rendezvous where you may have difficulty in excusing yourself from an unpleasant experience. If however you like the other person, then you can extend your meeting or promise him a second meeting very soon.


Do not pretend to be someone else

This is one of the blind dating fundamentals which everybody tends to forget or rather ignore. For if you do intend to continue the relationship further you will have to take off the mask sooner or later. Let the other person know in the first meeting only who you are.


Get to know the other person better

The blind dating fundamentals propose that you pay attention to your date as to what he is saying so that you get an idea of his characteristics which is highly essential to weigh the compatibility quotient.


You should recognize some signals which warn you of on toward perils in case you wish to see him again. Make a note when he talks excessively about his previous girlfriend, or uses derogatory remarks for his mother or girlfriend or treats others with contempt.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating services for singles.

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Ten Online Dating Safety Tips

March 5, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com 1 Comment

Your online dating safety begins with educating yourself on how to improve your experience and be safe doing it. Below you will find 10 tips to being safe during your online dating experience.


1. Don’t Provide Personal Information Too Soon

Your home phone number and full name provide easy ways to track who you are and where you live. Armed with just your home phone number, a person can easily gain access to your income information, home address, and even learn the value of your home. Armed with your first and last name, a person can do searches to determine quite a bit of information on you – where you work, what you do, and even what your home phone number is. So in the initial stages of communication, guard your personal information. As far as phone communication, see the next tip.


2. Meet in a Public Place for Your First Meeting

When it’s time to schedule that first exciting face-to-face meeting, arrange to meet in a public place and provide your own transportation. Your initial meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not he/she lied in their profile. Your gut instincts will kick in. Never accept an offer to be picked up at your house. Make sure that a friend knows where you are at and who you are with.


3. Trust Your Gut Instinct

Your instinct is a powerful medium for knowing when something doesn’t feel right. It is also a great way to measure when to move forward with someone and when to turn and run. As you read profiles, responses to emails, have phone conversations, and meet in person your instincts help tell you if something is “right” or if something is out of alignment. The “out of alignment” message is your cue to be careful, back off, or proceed with extreme caution. Trust your gut instinct, it’s the most powerful psychological tool you have at your disposal.


4. Stick With Paid Online Dating Services

Free online dating services provide a greater opportunity for potentially dangerous individuals. They don’t ever have to provide a credit card or other information that identifies them. There is some truth to the saying, “you get what you pay for”.


5. Use a Free Email Account

If you decide to move your communication from the anonymous email feature provided by the majority of online dating services then provide an email address that isn’t your regular one. Sign up for a free Yahoo!, Hotmail, or Gmail account that you use just for online dating. Don’t put your full name in the From field – only your first name or something else. This protects you from a person being able to search your normal email address to find out more information about you.


6. Use a Cell Phone or Anonymous Phone Service to Chat

When it’s time to move your communication to the next level (talking on the phone), never give out your home phone number. Either provide a cell phone number, use Skype to communicate, or use an anonymous phone service. It’s just an added protection barrier until you get to know the person better.


7. Beware of Married People

It’s unfortunate, but a lot of married people do use online dating services. They’ll even go as far as to meet people. A few years ago, MSNBC reported that a study found that up to 30% of people using online dating services are married! To help you in determining whether a person is married or not, read the Online Dating Magazine article, “Staying Clear of Married Men”.


8. Don’t Get a False Sense of Security

Some online dating services claim to offer “background checks” and when signing up for such a service you may find it easier to let your guard down. Don’t. Laws differ from state-to-state when it comes to background checks and there are even several states where checks can’t be effectively performed. Because of the inconsistency, criminals/wrong doers can and do get into services that do “background checks”. Never let your guard down.


9. Look for Questionable Characteristics in Your Communication

As you chat via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out characteristics of the other person. Are they controlling? Do they seem to anger easily? Do they avoid some of your questions? These can be questionable characteristics that tell you it’s time to move on.


10. Ask for a Recent Photo

There’s nothing wrong in asking someone if their photos are recent. If they don’t have a photo, request a recent one. It’s important for you to get a good look at the person you may eventually meet. Plus your instincts from your communications and their photos may provide you with valuable insight into the person. Plus, if they tell you the photo is recent and you meet and see a major difference, then you’ll know the person lied and can cut the date short. If a person lies about their photo or profile then that is a red flag to no longer pursue the relationship.

Rod hewitt is 27 years old and lives in Portland, Oregon, webprogrammer and web designer, owner of Namoro a brazilian dating site.

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