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How Can I Get A Date With My Ex Wife? – 4 Steps To Keep From Blowing It (Yes, Just 4)

April 4, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Quite often a divorced man will ask “how can I get a date with my ex wife?” You may or may not still be on friendly terms with your ex wife, and the divorce may not have been your idea. What you would like is another chance for a romance with the woman you love.

Getting her to consider reigniting a romance with you can be a challenge. A solid plan is required, you do not want to just try to wing it or you will likely blow it; maybe for good.

Here are 4 simple steps for a plan to get a date with your ex wife (yes, just 4 steps):

Step 1: Create a definite plan

Before you call your ex wife and ask her to go out on a date with you, create a plan, in writing of exactly what you are going to do. Include your ultimate goal, which is probably to win your ex wife back.

Also include what you are willing to offer, what you will do differently if given another chance. But also include what you are not offering.

Having a plan before you actually call your ex wife to ask her on a date will not only keep you on track regardless of what happens, but I find that the more prepared you are for something, the more confident you are. As in many things in life, dealing with woman is one area where confidence can help achieve success.

Step 2: Prepare the way for the actual question

You do not want to call your ex wife out of the blue and ask her out on a date. That could really mess things up. Make sure that have established conversation prior to this, hopefully on friendly terms.

Maybe you have sent her a birthday card, or called to give her encouragement if you are aware of a rough spot in her life.

If regular communication is occurring between you then there is a greater chance she will be willing and open to getting together with you on a date.

Step 3: Be polite when it comes time to ask

While this might go without saying, many men need to be reminded of their manners especially where it concerns an ex wife. When people get married and after time passes by, they have a tendency to take their spouse for granted and no longer show basic respect and politeness – without even realizing it.

Say to yourself “I want a date with my ex wife”, and let that soak in a minute. Hopefully that gives your inner mind a bit of a clue.

If she turns you down the first time you ask, remain polite and courteous. No does not always mean no forever and how you handle that first rejection could determine her future attitude toward you.

Step 4: Put her in control

Putting your ex wife in control of the situation is not a matter of passiveness on your part. But by giving her permission to call the shots on the day and time of the date along with where you meet and what you do can give her a comfort level that can allow a potential no to become a yes.

When you get to the point after a divorce that you are ready to ask how can I get a date with my ex wife these 4 steps, if followed, can help you get a “yes” from her.

If you are unclear about the particulars of developing a solid plan to win back your ex wife then head to our website for details. The address is http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com.

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Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship and marriage issues for many years now. Please note that he may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.

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Dating Tip : A Loser’s Guide to Success in the Dating Game (Part 1)

March 4, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

There is a familiar saying that goes like this : Nice guys always finish last. And what do we call guys who always finish last? Yes, that’s right. Losers. That is the painful price to pay for being a loser.

And when it comes to the dating game, losers inevitably find themselves at the wrong end of countless rejections. But you certainly can’t fault them for not trying. Or maybe they tried too hard to be a nice guy. And they just don’t understand why the women they are interested in always fall for someone who is obviously richer and better looking, but is obnoxious, rude, has got a stinking attitude, and a complete jerk.

Are you one of the losers? If yes, then I can understand how you are feeling right now. But fret not, because I am here to help you. In this dating tip guide, I will help transform you from a hopeless loser into an unstoppable winner in the dating game. Oh, don’t worry. At the end of it all, you can still retain your nice guy image. So let’s get started, shall we?

The 2 key elements : Spontaneity and Unpredictability

As a loser, you really despise those guys who are complete jerks, and who seem to be able to get any lady they want almost effortlessly. But just how on earth did they do it?

Let us take a look at their characters. They are usually spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, always fun to be with, and have a I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. They basically set their own rules, and never let anyone mess around with them. And yes, they always look good and feel confident.

So where do you start? You can start off by being unpredictable and mysterious. I know you are very excited when you got her number. But hang on. Don’t call her immediately. What you are doing here is to keep her guessing and wondering when are you going to call, or if you are going to call at all. And when you do finally make the call, suggest some nice and safe ideas out of the blue to catch her completely off guard. Something like : “Let’s go sip some coffee/get some ice cream”, or this, “Let’s go for a walk by the sea and see where it leads us to.” You may surprised by your new-found spontaneity, but your lady will soon warm up to your unpredictability.

Be confident and decisive

It is a well-known fact that women will go nuts over men who are confident and decisive, and will always give them something to lean on. So when you are out on a date with your woman, take control of the whole situation. Always prepare a back-up plan, so that you don’t have to wait another 2 hours for a dinner table. Show your flexibility too, just in case she tells you that she prefers spaghetti, or that she likes some soothing music. Go for a low cost solution, like bringing her to watch her favorite kind of romantic movie, or bring her down to Starbucks for her favorite coffee.

No need to go for extravagance; simplicity is the way to go. Because the fact is, if she is interested in you, then it doesn’t matter if it is a simple date. She just want your company.

Pay attention to what she says

Pay attention. This is probably an area where a loser has a slight edge. Women always prefer verbal communication, and would love to have someone as a listening ear. So this is very simple : When she talks, you listen.

But don’t just listen, and think about something else. Take note of what she is telling you. She may reveal her favorite singer, her favorite movie star, her favorite dress, her favorite novel, and so on. And she will be so impressed if you can rattle off all the details about the things that mean a lot to her.

End of part 1.

Wyatt Lee has a passion for writing, and he writes extensively on the subject of dating and romance. For part 2 of the above article, please visit his Dating Tip blog.

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The Relationship Status in Social Networking

February 4, 2010 By SinclairDaly Leave a Comment


Many of us have at least one memorable story about a change in relationship status on a social networking site. It may give you a chuckle to recall it or it may make you a little sad or angry to think about it. Perhaps you have completely blocked that memory out and it is just now surfacing after eight long years of being dormant in your brain … about that tragic relationship status update fiasco from your days on Friendster.com or Tribe.com or whatever the hell social networking website you were working with back then.

I have to admit that for many years I didn’t have any issues with social networking websites and the tricky little relationship status thing on my profile page. No, I was gleefully single for most of it, I guess. Well, I had my trials and tribulations with dating certainly but as far as status I was always “single.” That was true up until about 2004 when I started playing with that little function of my onscreen profile and things got interesting.

I didn’t start it, mind you. It was the girl that started it! I was dating Karah. Things were going fine. I didn’t see us really going anywhere as a couple but it was a hot and sexy connection. I suppose I did confuse that point by sometimes referring to her as my girlfriend when talking to other people about her. She didn’t seem to mind that I was doing it, really. In fact, one morning, kinda out of the blue, she turned to me while we were snuggling in bed and said, “I changed my relationship status to ‘in a relationship.’”

I responded, “oh, who are you in a relationship with?” She said, “Some guy.” I said, “cool!” To this day I don’t know if that guy was me or not. Truthfully, at the time I didn’t care. There was a slight twist to her status change, though. Sure, yeah, she was listed as ‘in a relationship’ but she was also listed as being on the site for dating purposes. Wait a minute … Dating? Dating? You’re in a relationship with someone and you’re also dating? Is this some kind of open relationship kind of thing? I dunno. Like I said I didn’t care, really. I asked her about it because I was curious what her answer might be but when she said it was just something she was doing as a joke and that she thought it was funny I just blew it off.

Of course, that whole thing with Karah didn’t last but it did open me up to the ever-changing world of the relationship status! The next experience I had was with Lulu. Lulu and I became fast friends and quickly moved through the steps of dating into a relationship. It was a lovely time as a couple and when it came time to change our status from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship’ it was a mutual decision. Inevitably … unfortunately, that relationship did not last either. There was a grace period agreed upon for when to switch the statuses back to single and so forth and with this being a more serious and substantial relationship there was the whole process of deleting her friends from my page and also reorganizing my list of top friends and such.

So, that was the Lulu status and profile thing I went through and it wasn’t unusual as far those things go – pretty typical, I imagine, unlike the crazy experience I had with Prella. Prella had omissions or gaps in her profile information. She was listed as single when I met her but later I found out that she is actually divorced. Two other discrepancies on her profile had to do with her having a kid and (as I soon realized is not something that is as cool as it sounds) being bisexual – neither were listed on her profile. There was a lot of back and forth between Prella and I while dating.

She is foreign and so her values were a little screwy starting out. She sometimes referred to me as her “future boyfriend” and once it was decided that I was going to be her boyfriend I was expected to execute a ritual in which I had to give her a gift of her favorite flower and then ask her to be my girlfriend … I dunno, it was some kind of European ritual or something. Anyway, after jumping through all of the hoops except for the actual asking her to be my girlfriend part she kept badgering me harping, “when are you going to ask me, when are you going to ask me?”

The next morning while in bed I finally asked her if she would be my girlfriend but she responded, “how can you ask me here in bed?” After that she would not give me a straight answer. For over a week we went back and forth messaging each other on MySpace about it. I changed my status to ‘in a relationship’ in order to show her that I was serious but she would not budge. Finally after six days of not getting her to change it over on her profile I gave up and changed mine back to ‘single.’ That night I got a phone call from her. Prella says, “I was about to change me status but then I saw that you changed yours back to single so I didn’t do it!”

Oh well, safe to say that was the last time my status changed at all. :)
Author Sinclair Daly


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