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Keeping on Track During & After Your Divorce

March 6, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Life is hard enough and then we throw divorce into the equation. I have sat back and watched many of my friends and others alike go through some very trying times with regard to their divorce. The main issue seems to be what the emotional aspects do to us. How it complicates just about everything that we are doing. Our jobs and our children seem to suffer the most. Things like the court dates and custody battles keep us overwhelmed. The list just grows. What one really needs is a great tool that can assist them when they are in the midst of all the chaos. I have devised just that. (See the link to my e-book below).

When you become overwhelmed with all the responsibilities and ill emotions that come with going through a divorce, you will want to be able to utilize this tool in order to make sense of it all and keep you on track.

If you are the one involved you may feel overwhelmed. Or you may just want to help another person you know. But this tool can really help. Divorce can leave you in so much debt or confusion about how to handle simple day to day life. This tool will help you think clearly through the ordeal so you can become more efficient in your life. I talk about how you can maintain a daily ritual that will help you as you go along. Treating it one step at a time before it gets out of hand.

Don’t let it get you down or alter the things that you need to do in order get your life back on track. All it takes is you, perseverance and discipline. We often think that the best things in life are the ones that we have the least pain from, but most of time that is when we grow the most. Divorce is nothing but stress. Stress that we can eliminate or at least keep in check. I help you do that in this great tale.   www.lulu.com/content/2508674

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Having a Great First Date Being Robbed at Gun Point

March 5, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

The first date has got to be a memorable encounter in order for there to be a possibility for a second date.  The chemistry has got to be there, there has got to be electric in the air.  Dinner and a movie may be ok, but I can bet it is the same type of first date she has been on for the past few guys.  Why not take her on a date that will provide her an emotionally charged experience which will result in a strong bond.

Let’s think outside the box for a second.  You are standing in line at a bank, when two men come in and rob the bank.  They come in waving and screaming with guns scaring everyone within the bank.  You are told to get on the floor at gun point.  So you lay down on your stomach, fearing for your life.  You turn your head to the left and see this old lady who has the same fear in your eyes that you are experiencing.  You slowly slide your hand over to her hand and grasp it to comfort her through the ordeal.

Now I am not telling you to go out and rob a bank, but my point is that an extraordinary experience is going to lead to a stronger bond.  I would have to believe that the two people in my above example would become the greatest of friends due to the extreme experience that they shared.  All that you need to do is make sure that your first date is emotionally charged and exciting.  It has got to be like having several mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

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5 Smart Moves to Safer Online Dating

March 5, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Are you single and ready to get back on the dating arena? These days, it can be a big ordeal to meet people who can be a good match to your personality, lifestyle and interest. Nowadays, Internet can be a tool to save you from these disappointments, you can meet a good guy if you safely explore the wonders of online dating.

You can find several sites that offer their service as an online dating portal, they aim to match people by becoming a venue for social interaction. Joining this activity can be exciting but scary at the same time because talking to a stranger is a nerve wracking task for most people and at the same time there are many people who would want to take advantage of your vulnerability. So here’s the top 5 smart moves to keep you safe while trying your luck to find Mr or Ms Right, online.

1. Most online dating sites rely on profiles, the first tip is do not post other people’s photo. If you’re serious about finding someone online, be real. You wouldn’t want other people to like you for something you are not. Write down your hobbies, interests to attract people that are in your league.

2. Be wary on the information that you reveal. Sure, you can share the books you read, favorite sports, music or movie genre preference but do not give away your exact location, phone number, credit card details or other personal information beyond common details such as age, gender, preference. Don’t be paranoid but remember that prevention is better than cure.

3. Once you start to get to know people through messaging, have an open mind in interacting with other site members. You might prefer the tall, dark and handsome types of men or the blonde blue eyed ladies but leave an open possibility to meeting those that doesn’t fit your type. Other options do exist and it might be much better.

4. If you feel that you want to take a step further to get to know a person you met online, gadgets like webcam and microphone are useful. Webcams can help you have a semi live interaction instead of exchanging emails of instant messages. Microphone on the otherhand can save you from high phone bills. Before deciding to finally meet for a date, you can screen the person by having a webcam conference, wherein you can see their expression. Both of you can be nervous but you can’t certainly fake sincerity.

5. When both of you decided that its time to meet or have a real life date, make sure to go on a public place or settle for bring a friend date so that you can free yourselves from hassles and be safe from scammers. Not everyone who joins dating sites wants to find romance, others are there to take advantage so pay attention if they are consistent on what they say or do.

The final advice is to have fun on your online dating experience, it may be risky so try to follow these steps and your common sense. If you are ready to spice up your lovelife through the Internet, visit and register on online dating sites.

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Helpful Divorce Advice for Women

March 3, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Going through a divorce is a long complicated process no matter how smoothly things are going. Even if you and your spouse are communicating well and have agreed to a settlement, the emotional toll that it takes on a person can be enormous and is often hard to deal with. In most cases female involved in the relationship tends to have the most problems dealing with the divorce, which is why there are number of books and Internet sites that have been dedicated to offering divorce advice for women.

 

One of the many books that have been published on the matter of divorce that offers advice to women is entitled “Divorce 4 Women”. A woman who went through the entire divorce process herself wrote this book and now she wants to offer advice to other women who are going through what she went through. What this book has been designed to offer you is a roadmap of how to get through the ordeal. Included in this book are stories of other women and what they went through and of how the pain and anger could have been avoided. One of the main things that offered by the book is how to get what you deserve from your divorce settlement. It promises to help you to keep your sanity, children and home. It includes tips for choosing the best attorneys and for getting your finances in order. While this book offers a great deal of information it is important to remember that it was written by someone who had gone through a divorce. In no way is this person a trained professional in the area of divorce and you must keep that in mind when listening to her advice.

 

There is a multitude of Internet sites that offer advice to women to help them get through the divorce process. Once again these are sites that have been created by people who have more than likely gone through divorce themselves, but it is possible that they do not have any training or experience in the matter at all. It is important that you take this information with a grain of salt and not follow it to the letter. Internet sites simply offer people a great way of getting things off their chest. They can share their feelings and ideas with others. However, when it comes to taking advice from others that may impact your divorce you should do so only if they are trained in the area.

 

The best places to look for advice are from either divorce lawyers or a maybe a therapist. The attorney will give you all the legal advice that you need to make sure that all your things are in order. The therapist will let you talk and share your feelings and emotions so that you are looking after yourself during the process. The best advice that anyone can give a women going through a divorce is to look after you first and worry about the divorce second. Getting stressed is not going to help anyone.

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What to Look for When Dating After Divorce

February 26, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Men and women who have been divorced are often scared of getting back into the dating scene. It is particularly hard for someone who didn’t agree to the divorce. This person often thinks that he/she will never find anyone like the person they were married to and often people set their standards very high so they have no chance of getting hurt again. However, the process of dating after divorce does not have to be that complicated. There are some easy steps that you can follow that will make getting into the dating scene easy and painless.

 

The first thing that you need to decide is whether or not you are really ready to date. People who have gone through a painful divorce often think that dating again will make the pain easier but in fact it just makes it worse. You are the only person that can decide if you are ready or not. There will be people pushing you to get back out there and you need to listen to your own heart and your own mind in this matter. While you are thinking about whether you are ready or not you also need to think about what you are looking for in a new relationship. This is a great time to think back to your marriage and figure out what made you unhappy and want the divorce in the first place. If there are things that you can think of then you need to avoid that in your new relationship.

 

Not only do you need to think about whether or not you are really ready to date again but you need to consider your emotional status as well. Do you have the confidence to get back out there and find someone new? It is important to also think about what you have to offer to the relationship. If you are tired and exhausted from the whole ordeal of the divorce then you might not be ready to deal with another person on an emotional level. You might want to try taking care of yourself first and then start looking at dating again.

 

The dating scene can be tough and you need to be prepared for rejection and failures. You might meet someone and things may go well for a while but you may soon realize that the relationship is not going to work for you. It is all right to admit that it didn’t work out. You don’t want to rush into anything serious again just after getting out of a divorce. It is also important that you are able to deal with the face that people might reject you and not feel the same way that you do. You are going to put yourself out there and there will be times that your feelings will not be returned in the way that you want. You need to take things slow and make sure that you find what you are really looking for and you are not rushing into anything because you are lonely.

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