How to Save Marriage from Divorce

There is lots of couple nowadays that just after a few months of being married and living together in one house, they now are filing for a divorce, and that is too bad. Couples have to realize that marriage is a lifetime obligation. It is not just a paper wherein you will sign or a game that you will play and after you get bored you will just turn it off. Marriage is not something that you will do because you have just thought of it or you want to gain something from it, you are getting married because of just one reason- because of LOVE.

Many people are not thinking of this nowadays, they engage to marriage without knowing what marriage is all about. Before you want to engage into marriage you have to ask yourself, can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life? Are you willing to stay on her side through tears and joy? They say that they want to stick with that person because they are happy being with him or her. How about on the times when both of you are not happy? Will you leave that person alone if you are having a problem?

Do not enter into a marriage if you are not able to be with that person through thick and thin. To save marriage from divorce is being able to realize before that you are willing to be there no matter what happens, you will stick together. It is vital that you know how to keep love on top of all and supporting each other in times of problems and trials because you love each other.

To save marriage from divorce also requires keeping your love for each there at all times. There are many instances that couples reason out that they had run out of love for each other. Then do things that will keep your love always there! You can think of things on what you can do. You can have a date with each other once in a week. Always reminisce the old times when you are together, your first meeting, your first date, and all your moments together. Rekindle your love for each other. You can do simple things such as hugging him and saying good night or you can do some breakfast in bed in the morning for him. These are simple things that you can do to show your love for to him or her. Being thoughtful and showing concern to each other would be very great for your relationship.

To save marriage from divorce also requires keeping the communication open. You have to keep in touch with each other. If someone commits mistakes, ask for forgiveness and be forgiven. Always remember that nobody is perfect. If the two of you have problem, sort it out. You may be arguing on a period of 15 minutes but after that you will be able to give each other a hug. Remember to argue a little and love more.

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Volatile Marriage Amicable Divorce

VOLATILE MARRIAGE AMICABLE DIVORCE

Fiction Short Story

By

VIKRAM KARVE

A cell-phone rings at 9 oâ??clock in the morning in an apartment in Pune.

The husband picks up, pauses for a moment as if hearing something, and says, â??Donâ??t worry, Iâ??ll be there on time,â? and then he switches off the mobile phone and keeps it in his pocket.

He then shouts to his wife, who is in the kitchen: â??Iâ??m going out for some work. Iâ??ll be back around one thirty or two for lunch.â?

â??Where are you going? Youâ??ve taken leave today. Letâ??s go shopping; and then for lunch and a movie.â?

â??Please. Not today. Iâ??ve taken leave just for this important thing.â?

â??Important thingâ?¦? What important thingâ?¦? Where are you goingâ?¦?â? the wife persists.

The husband does not want to tell her but he knows now that he has no choice but to tell her. He knows his wifeâ??s nature so well â?? she is not going to rest till she finds out. She will nag him to death until he tells her.

So he decides to tell her the bare minimum.

â??I am going to the Family Court,â? he says.

â??Family Courtâ?¦? Whyâ?¦?â? his wife shrieks in amazement.

â??A divorce case,â? the husband says nonchalantly.

â??Divorce caseâ?¦? You are filing a divorce caseâ?¦? You are trying to divorce me behind my backâ?¦?â? the wife yells hysterically.

â??Will you please be quiet and listenâ?¦? Itâ??s not us. Pooja has asked me to come for the hearing.â?

â??Poojaâ?¦? Who is this Poojaâ?¦?â?

â??Youâ??ve met her. Sheâ??s my colleague at work.â?

â??Oh. That Poojaâ?¦! I knew you always had a soft corner for her.â?

â??Itâ??s her final divorce hearing today and sheâ??s called me.â?

â??Divorce caseâ?¦? Poojaâ?¦? She called youâ?¦? How are you involvedâ?¦? I hope the divorce is not because of youâ?¦? I knew youâ??d do something stupid. You are so gullible you know â?? got trapped by her and now you are in trouble being summoned by courts. Respectable persons never see the insides of a court in their entire lives…!â?

â??Please keep quietâ?¦! You just go on and onâ?¦! Pooja has called me just to give her emotional support…â?

â??Emotional supportâ?¦? From youâ?¦? This Pooja needs emotional support from youâ?¦? Why youâ?¦? Tell meâ?¦why youâ?¦? I knew there was some hanky-panky going on. Iâ??m coming with you. Canâ??t you see what sheâ??s up toâ?¦?â?

â??Pleaseâ?¦please calm down and donâ??t jump to conclusions. Pooja is just a colleague going through a rough patch. As a friend, I have to help her out, show her a bit of compassion and kindnessâ?¦thatâ??s allâ?¦â?

â??Compassionâ?¦? Compassion, my footâ?¦! This compassion may soon turn into passionâ?¦!â? the wife says sarcastically, â??I tell youâ?¦Drying a divorceeâ??s tears is one of the most dangerous pastimes for a man, especially a married manâ?¦!â?

â??Pastimeâ?¦? Iâ??m not going there for amusement. I’m going just to help out a colleagueâ?¦â?

â??Oh, yes. An attractive colleague in distress, isnâ??t it? And our Knight in shining armour is rushing to her aidâ?¦!â?

â??Okay. Why donâ??t you come along and see for yourself,â? the husband says exasperated. 
The moment he utters those words he instantly regrets it, but it is too late. His wife has already picked up her purse and is heading towards the door.

â??Why are they divorcingâ?¦?â? the wife asks, as they are driving in their car from their house in Aundh towards the Family Court in city.

â??Itâ??s divorce by mutual consent.â?

â??Mutual consentâ?¦? What nonsenseâ?¦! There must be some other reason.â?

â??No. They have just agreed to separate.â?

â??Agreed to separateâ?¦? If they can agree to separate, why canâ??t they agree to stay togetherâ?¦?â?

â??I donâ??t know. Why donâ??t you ask Pooja thatâ?¦!â? the husband says irritated.

â??Of course I will. And Iâ??ll give a piece of my mind to her husband too and tell him to stop harassing his wife.â?

â??Pleaseâ?¦I beg youâ?¦for heavenâ??s sake donâ??t say anything stupid and embarrasing to them over there. He is not harassing her. They are parting amicably, as friends. I told you, it is an amicable divorce by mutual consent…â?

â??What nonsenseâ?¦? Amicable divorce by mutual consentâ?¦! There is no such thing as amicable divorceâ?¦!â?

â??What do you meanâ?¦? So many people have amicable divorces now-a-days and part as friends.â?

â??Nonsenseâ?¦! Itâ??s all nonsense, a cover upâ?¦ Amicable Divorce is a big lie â?? an oxymoron.â?

â??Oxymoronâ?¦?â?

â??Yes.  Tell me, how can divorce be amicableâ?¦? If a marriage is really so amicable, why divorce in the first placeâ?¦? If they can divorce and remain friends, I am sure they can remain married and be friends, isnâ??t itâ?¦?â?

â??I donâ??t know. Please let’s talk something else.â?

â??I am sure there is something fishy…â?

â??Will you please keep quiet and let me drive the car in peaceâ?¦?â?

â??Whatâ??s her husbandâ??s nameâ?¦?â?

â??Abhishek.â?

â??Seeâ?¦ Pooja and Abhishekâ?¦ even their names are compatible,â? the wife says, I am certain that there must be some adultery involved. This Abhishek must be having an affair. Or it must be Pooja. Yes it’s her. Iâ??m sure she is having an affairâ?¦!â?

â??Donâ??t be stupid. Sheâ??s not like that.â?

â??How do you knowâ?¦?â?

â??I know her for so many years now. Sheâ??s quite close to me. Sheâ??s told me everythingâ?¦â?

â??Close to youâ?¦? She is close to youâ?¦? Oh, My Godâ?¦! I hope itâ??s not youâ?¦?â?

â??Meâ?¦? Will you please shut upâ?¦? I told you it is mutual incompatibilityâ?¦!â?

â??Mutual Incompatibility my footâ?¦! Let me tell you there is no one in this world who is more mutually incompatible than you and meâ?¦! But are we divorcingâ?¦?â?

â??Why donâ??t weâ?¦? At least Iâ??ll have some peace and respite from your constant naggingâ?¦â?

â??Ahâ?¦you want to divorce me so you can marry her, is itâ?¦? Youâ??ve got a hope in heavenâ?¦! Iâ??ll cling on to you till my dying dayâ?¦ And then I will follow you as a ghost and even to heaven after thatâ?¦â?

They drive in silence for a while and then the wife asks, “Has she got any childrenâ?¦?â?

â??Yes. Two. A boy and a girl. In schoolâ?¦â?

â??Poor children. What will happen to themâ?¦?â?

â??Theyâ??ll go off to a boarding school for a while till Pooja settles down…â?

â??Itâ??s funny. Theyâ??ve got children and are divorcing. We donâ??t have any children, but we are carrying on togetherâ?¦!â?

“Yes,â? the husband says, â??I really wonderâ?¦! We constantly fight but we stay together; and they have such a cordial relationship but they want to separateâ?¦â?

â??Marriage is not supposed to be cordial and cold,â? the wife says lovingly, snuggling up affectionately to her long-married husband.

â??Iâ??ve realized one thing,â? says the husband dotingly hugging his much-married wife.

â??Whatâ?¦?â?

â??The opposite of love is not hate â?? it is indifference.â?

VIKRAM KARVE

Copyright © Vikram Karve 2010

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VIKRAM KARVE educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU and The Lawrence School Lovedale, is an Electronics and Communications Engineer by profession, a Human Resource and Training Manager by occupation, a Teacher by vocation, a Creative Writer by inclination and a Foodie by passion. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles in magazines and journals for many years before the advent of blogging. His delicious foodie blogs have been compiled in a book “Appetite for a Stroll”. Vikram lives in Pune with his family and pet Doberman girl Sherry, with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts. Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog – http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com Email: vikramkarve@sify.com

Save My Marriage Today – Stop Divorce Advice

Are you afraid that one day you might wake up and your marriage is not working anymore and you need to settle for divorce? Isn’t that heartbreaking and frustrating to know that the relationship you’ve been dreaming to work out since you’ve been together is slowing to break off? I can understand how you feel that why you want to know any stop divorce advice so that you can make your marriage work for a happier and much better for you and for you family. Here are some advices that you need to know:

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1. Try to Make Up for the Lost Time

Have you been so busy lately that you even forgot your anniversary? Or can you even remember the last time you went out for a romantic date with your spouse? If it was ages ago, then it’s time for you to make up for all of the lost time you had together. You might been very busy with work that you’ve forgot your responsibility in making the relationship work. Try to set a date for the both of you because it will surely help the relationship a lot.

2. Attend Marriage Counseling

One stop divorce advice you should keep in mind is to try to talk with your spouse and convince each other to attend a marriage counseling. If you are having some issues with the relationship or if you are having issues with your partner, you can definitely ask for advice and more tips when you attend the counseling. A lot of couples who are having a hard time in their relationship are recommended to attend counseling to make things work again.

3. Talk Things Out

If you really want the relationship to work and bring back the love once again, then you must try your best and all you can do to make your spouse talk to you seriously about the problem. Keep the communication open between each other because it will really help a lot in saving the marriage. Try to talk things out and try to talk if what are the things that you need to do to make things work again.

Being able to do even though one stop divorce advice that has been mentioned above would really help you save your marriage. It’s not yet too late to make things work especially if you feel that you still love each other. There’s no perfect relationship and everyone goes through the same problem that you have right now. Have faith and just stay positive that everything’s going to be okay soon. Good luck!

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Date After Divorce: Tips And Advice

It is said that marriages are made in Heaven. True, since every human being on this earth manages to find his/her better half among the crowd. Call it divine intervention or destiny, marriages on earth takes place in this way only. But is breaking up a marriage or a divorce as to put it legally, a matter of destiny or purely a human intervention in the affairs of God? A lot goes in making a marriage successful and very petty issues often take it to the courtroom. But none can be blamed as life has become full of complexities. Breaking up a marriage is not easy either as two individuals in a union for a long time tend to get emotional and dependable. To cut those ties of love and care, and making up new ones, is really a time testing affair. Dating after divorce as such should be dealt with care and patience.
A divorce is rigorous and leaves bad memories in the mind of an individual. As such, whenever that person approaches another one in a new relationship, there works insecurity in him/her. On one hand the person fears to get hurt and rejected yet once again. The mind keeps on finding similarities with his/her past experiences with the new one unconsciously and under such circumstances it becomes difficult for such a relation to thrive for a long time. Aware of the mental trauma that the person has undergone, it depends upon the person at the other end of the relationship to make it click. Patience and understanding are key ingredients that are required in such cases. However, with a need to reach out to another one who can be your soul mate, a conscious effort has to be made from your side too. Following certain tips and advice surely can prove beneficial.
Some Tips
•    Look your best and be confident
•    Make him/her feel that you are an optimist person and is ready to overcome the past. So don’t sympathize.
•    Since it is your first date, take a gift as a token of appreciation.
•    Start off as good friends first. It is important to see how comfortable you are with him/her in sharing your thoughts.
Little Advices:
•    Avoid talking about the past and what led to your breakup.
•    Don’t blame or use strong words against your ex partner. That may portray a negative side of you before him/her.
•    Get to know each other well first rather than plunging into future thoughts. Leave some for rest.
•    Judge your mistakes too and do not commit them again.
•    Remember that your present date is an entirely different person. He/she has nothing in common with your ex partner. So, it is better to avoid any comparisons.
•    Talk, listen to him/her and make him/her listen to you, understand you. Spend more time with each other to avoid misunderstandings later.
•    Turn into a new leaf yourself, incorporate new hobbies, and socialize with your friends to get over the past and things related to it.

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Florida Divorce Law

What are the grounds for divorce in Florida?
“Dissolution of marriage” is the legal term for ending a marriage in Florida divorce law. A dissolution of marriage is the legal act of terminating a marriage through a court action. The Florida Dissolution of Marriage Statute is designed to promote the amicable settlement of disputes that arise between the parties to a marriage and to lessen the potential harm to the spouses and their children caused by the process of the legal dissolution of marriage.
Under Florida divorce law, a dissolution of marriage will not be determined on the basis of the fault of one or both of the parties. There are only two grounds for the dissolution of marriage:
1.the marriage is irretrievably broken, or
2. one of the parties is mentally incompetent.
The ground for the dissolution based on the incompetence of one of the parties is rarely used. It cannot be used in Florida divorce law unless the party alleged to be incompetent has been held by a judge to have been incompetent for a period of at least three years.
The more usual reason used to obtain a dissolution in Florida divorce law is that the marriage has proved to be irretrievably broken. Irretrievably broken means the parties have differences or disputes that cannot be settled, and they must be so serious that they have caused the total and complete breakdown of the marriage.
If there are minor children, or if a claim of irretrievable breakdown is denied, the court may order counseling, continue the proceedings for three months, or take such other action as may be in the best nterests of the parties and children of the marriage.
Annulment
In Florida divorce law, the court declares the marriage contract broken; in an annulment, the court says that there never was a marriage. Annulment is much more difficult to prove — and is much rarer — than divorce. If you want to go this route, you will definitely need to speak to a Florida divorce attorney. Of course, if you want an annulment for religious reasons, you’ll need to consult with your priest, minister, or rabbi as well.
Documentation
You’ll need to provide your divorce lawyer with the following documentation in order to proceed with your dissolution. Start gathering everything together as soon as possible so that you can find out what might be missing and submit any requests for duplicates.
Personal Data
•Full addresses and phone numbers of both parties.
•Full names, birth dates, and addresses of all children of the marriage, their school and grade.
•Information about any prior marriage of either spouse, including a certified copy of the divorce decree.
•A copy of any domestic contracts (e.g. a prenuptial agreement).
•Information about any previous legal proceedings between the spouses or involving any of the children.
•Dates and particulars about any previous separations, attempts at reconciliation, or marriage counseling.
Financial Data
•Your previous year’s income tax return, and any related data from the IRS.
•Information about your current income, e.g. a current pay slip.
•A list of substantial assets and liabilities of both spouses.

Jeff Cotrill is the staff writer of Divorce Mag and www.DivorceMagazine.com which offers information on Florida Divorce Lawyer ,Florida Divorce, Florida Divorce law