When I first met one particular girl, I took her hand when she got into the car and held it for a few seconds… then took it away saying, “No hand holding this early”, as if it were her idea… then at lunch, I put out my hand for her to take it and then when she went to take it, I moved it before she touched me… then did it again… and again saying, “No, really…”
Finally, after the meal was finished, I reached out for her hand, and she wouldn’t take mine because I had teased her so much. So I actually grabbed her hand and held it and massaged it. This was teasing and teasing…and when she finally gave up, I gave it to her.
Then, when I gave her a hug later on, she kissed me on the cheek or neck a couple of times, and I accused her of kissing me a lot, etc. (The idea is that she’s into me and she’s the aggressor.) One part of this is me doing something (holding her hand) and then accusing her of doing it (“no hand holding this early”).
This kind of behavior, sending mixed messages, and flirting doesn’t really make sense to most men, but to women it’s magic. Also, some women really get intrigued if you ‘figure them out’ early on in the game and have their number… and then just ‘laugh at how cute they are’ when they do things. This gets them all freaked out, as they feel like you’re in control, and they don’t know what to do next… like you know all the games they’re playing and won’t fall for any of their old tricks… this makes them nervous as they don’t have any POWER OR AMMO!
They love this, as men are hardly ever in control. And they secretly want someone who is. (It’s VERY important not to become the ‘friend/therapist’ with this information… and start kissing their ass! The idea is to use it to bust on them and not to be understanding.)
I also tell women early on that I think they’ll make a nice ‘friend’.
It’s funny to see how the friendship frame works with them, because this gets them thinking often for the first time, “Wow, maybe I just found a man who is smarter than me, knows my little games, and has higher standards than me for once… and now he’s talking about being ‘just friends’! Oh no! Doesn’t he like me? Doesn’t he want me like all the other guys?” A key here is to always keep them guessing… never get too into them or they’ll get right into their old games, etc.
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