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Verify the Identity of Your Online Dating Match

March 16, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

The biggest hurdle that most people face in online dating world is the question and concern of whether the person at the other end of the conversation is really who he or she says that they are. It is hard to get comfortable with the person you are about to meet, when you have no other connection to that person beyond an anonymous internet connection.

In the real world of dating, before you go on a first date, you probably know:

* Where someone works;
* Where they live;
* Who some of their friends are;
* Where they go to hang out;
* What they drive…

Sure, you cannot tell a lot about a person from information such as this, but you can sure tell a friend these things in the event that something goes awry on your first date. It is always better to be safe than sorry.

Your friends are able to know something real and truthful about the person you are about to go on a date with, because you are able to learn that information before you go on your first date.

But, when you are doing the online dating thing, you can chat or email back and forth with a potential date, and even after several months of talking, you could potentially still not know the first thing about the person you are ready to meet. For all you know, they could be pathological liars.

With online dating, it is difficult to really know anything about the person you want to meet, UNLESS, you join a dating website that has systems in place to verify the information that a person gives online. For example, does he or she really work where they say? Do they live where they say? Is that picture on their profile really what they look like in person?

But, if like me you have been around online dating for a number of years, it is really difficult to find a website that offers systems to enable the dating website’s management team to verify any kind of information about their members.

When I took the decision to start an online dating site, I wanted to set up a system that would allow our management team to verify information about our members, so that we could offer our members a safer online dating environment. On our website, with our latest service upgrade, we finally have the ability to verify information about our members, providing our members a much more honest and safe dating community.

Although members are not required to verify their personal information, we do give our users several ways to verify their personal information. When a member verifies their personal information, we show our other members a logo which identifies what information has been verified in the user’s profile.

Online dating should lead to fun and fulfillment, and hopefully, we have been able to introduce an element to our site that will let you see our dating community as one of the safer dating websites available online.

Lance Metzger has been writing about offline and online dating for a number of years. While our online dating website may not be right for everyone, it is ideal for people interested in No Strings Attached Dating and Friends With Benefits relationships. Learn more at: http://www.nsadatingsite.com

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Maintaining Relationships With Teenagers After Divorce

March 7, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Divorced non-custodial parents often find that they struggle to maintain healthy relationships with their children, especially during the adolescent years. Clinical psychologist Anthony E. Wolf weighs in on this issue by suggesting that you find a balance between smothering your teens and abandoning them.

Author of six parenting books, including Get out of my life, but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the mall?: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager, Wolf says that it is par for the course for teenagers to assert their independence by rebelling regardless of whether or not their parents are happily married or divorced. Teens would rather be hanging out with their friends than going to the mall with you.

The Added Challenge of Divorce

However, the additional hurdle comes when the children feel like they need to or should pick a side with feuding parents. The other alternative would be for them to wait it out in the ambiguous middle, which can be confusing and painful. Teenagers may blame the parent who they think was in the wrong. Furthermore, the children tend to side with the parent they are living with – often the mother – and that can increase the emotional distance as well.

Creating a Balance

All hope is not lost though. It is important not to pester your children too much, especially during adolescence when they are trying to prove that they are not children. You don’t want to keep pushing your children because they will push back. That is a battle neither of you will win.

Don’t turn a blind eye either. Always remember important dates like birthdays, holidays, big exams, and key school events. Call your children but not constantly. Suggest that you spend face-to-face time together but don’t force the issue. Even though it may be frustrating to make an effort which yields little positive response, you should continue to show interest in your children. Eventually they will recognize your concern and warmth.

Long-term Hope

You may feel so beat down at times that you want to give up and walk away. This is a natural reaction. Nevertheless, keep in mind that despite the rejected dinner invitations and sighs of annoyance, deep down your children do still care. They would be disappointed if you stopped behaving like their parent. The silver lining is that if you can stick by your children during their teenage years it is likely that they will begin to see you in a new light once they enter young adulthood. Their perspective will change and a healthy relationship can progress from there.

Paul Banas is a founder of GreatDad.com. He writes articles on pregnancy care, baby names, toilet training, parenting tips and many more topics related to divorced dads.

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Getting The Best Dating Software

March 6, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

In today’s world of increasing demand for good and niche online dating services it is always a good idea to go and opt for an online dating business as a possible second job option. Especially with the increasing financial demands and with the increasing opportunities on the internet, people are looking closely at a second job option. Any body who have a passion for online dating and who is good at match making can look at this option.


When you decide to start your own online dating or a match making business, the first hurdle is to get the web site ready. If you are looking for a web site which will have so many advanced features which are not available currently on other platforms and when you have handsome budget and when you have enough amount of quality time in hand then you should go for a custom built dating web site for your online match making business. If that is not the case, then you can go and buy an off the shelf available dating scripts from the market place. This process will ultimately decrease the time, cost and effort that involves in building a dating web site from the scratch. You can use that time and money in marketing the dating web site in a very prominent way.


However, because of the popularity of this dating concept on the internet, there is a large available pool of dating software. Choosing the best dating software is definitely not an easy task. It is definitely a complex and more over a time consuming task. But, choosing the best dating software will definitely become the first step that you are going to take towards establishing a successful online dating business. So, this step of choosing the best dating software deserves all the time and effort it requires.


Normally, it is a better idea to go for an open source software script because you will get the entire code with the script which you can use while customizing the script or whole doing several serious modifications to the script. So, a best dating software should be developed on some open source language like PHP.


Most of the dating scripts available online will come with all the basic features like profile updating, video streaming, chat messages, message boards, forums and many other. However you should always look out for dating script which can be easily customizable, preferably right from the admin panel of the script. So the best dating software will definitely come with a powerful and easy to use admin panel.


The other most important thing is the number of attributes that you can edit/add/delete in a given profile. If this is unlimited then the PHP dating script can easily be called the best dating software. The ability to switch between a free and pay mode will also add so much of credibility to the so called best dating software. Hence you should check out this option as well.


Check out the number of dating sites that are live now which are using that software. If it is among the first 3 used softwares then it should be one of the best dating software for sure. Get the feedback from the webmasters of the live sites. That first hand information will definitely help you in a big way while deciding which one is the best dating software.


After getting the best dating software invest some time in understanding the features that are already available with that software. Then prepare a good business and revenue model before starting the dating web site. This should give you an idea how your dating we site should look like. Then you can go for a professional designer to make this best dating software even better with a professionally designed version. The design tells almost everything about your online dating site to your visitors. So, it should be the best possible one for the chosen market segment.


After getting a professionally designed web site, install it with a good web hosting service provider. If you have good budget you should go for dedicated servers or else virtual private servers can also do the trick for you. After doing all this hard work your dating web site is up and running. Now, it all depends on how well you market your dating site to the prospective users of the web site.

Ron McNeil promotes best dating software to start your own dating site and run your own dating software site powered by Web Scribble software located at http://www.webscribble.com/products/webdate/

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What You Need to Know About Speed Dating?

March 6, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

It has been a long time since the world was first introduced to the concept of two minute noodles, then speed yoga, speed aerobics, speed salsa and now it has warmly embraced the idea of speed dating. Speed dating is a concept, which has fast been gaining acceptance among masses all over the world. Individuals, who are single and are looking forward to get hitched, are more than glad with the concept of speed dating.

Gone are the days, when a man had to wait until the fifth or sixth date to adjudge whether a relationship is going to work out or not. Moreover, the biggest hurdle that most of the single individuals face is landing up with a date in the first place. You can’t exactly expect to go out with any other random person, you see on the street for a date. A date has to be with someone special.

And speed dating allows you to simply find that “special” person without much of a hassle. The concept of speed dating basically means that a large number of single men and women are invited together for a social gathering in a room where they get to spend exactly three minutes with each member of the opposite sex who is present in the room. After the three minutes are over, both the man and woman can proceed to the next person.

All the members who are present in the hall are given a sheet of paper where they tick either yes or no in front of the name of the person they have just interacted with. This assessment is done for obvious reasons and at the end of the day; these sheets are passed on to the organizers of the event.

The organizers then try to find out any possible matches so that they can interact further and get to know each other in a better manner. The fun elements which are part and parcel of the concept of speed dating, such as the sophisticated restraint and an extremely well-polished exterior which the participants try to project in front of the other sex are just some of them.

There are certain sections of people who are apprehensive about the concept of speed dating. Speed dating is believed to be an idea through which people can only form a very shallow opinion about the other person as the time provided to interact with them is really very less.

Most of the speed daters admit that they often end up forming a very judgmental opinion about the other person in this limited time. Speed daters even admit that they could have probably fallen for a candidate whom they had rejected after the “set” three-minute span, provided they had a chance to have a proper conversation with them.

Don’t forget, speed dating has it’s own charm. The prospect of meeting hundreds of potential suitors, under a single roof both excites and sounds scary at the same time. Yet, it is a technique, which every one wants to try and who knows, they just might end up finding their true love in a matter of three minutes.

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Online Dating – a Great Check List to See if You are Ready

March 5, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Are you in two minds about whether to take the plunge and enter the world of online dating? Thinking about it and actually getting down doing it are two entirely different activities. The first is a purely cognitive thought process while the latter, involves acting on those cognitive thoughts.

Meaning of ready

Many times you may think that you are ready but you are not. It can get really confusing. You are still afraid of any friendship or relationship â?? you are still nursing a rejected and broken heart! In such cases it is better to prepare yourself before committing to any online dating service.

â?¢ What is your current mind status?

â?¢ Are you lonely and looking for company?

â?¢ Are you willing to share your thoughts and experiences with similar people?

â?¢ Are you willing to keep an open mind and be more accepting?

â?¢ Are you willing to pay a small fee for registering for online dating services?

If yes, then you have crossed the first hurdle â?? you are ready. But if no, then donâ??t hurry and pressurize yourself â?? just give yourself time to shake off insecure negative feelings.

Ready to indulge in fun

You ought to be ready for fun and this means casual chats, friendship, romantic encounters, physical intimacy and even love! But you have to be prepared to accept that online dating is a no obligation luck rendezvous where you may strike it lucky or you may not.

Ready to accept

You must display an accepting attitude in your online chats and profile. This includes an accepting attitude towards opposite genders in particular. You have to be more accepting of gender quirks, eccentricities and dislikes. This gender oriented attitude can be class or even age specific. Suppose you are chatting online with a middle aged executive, be prepared to indulge and accept his attitude.

Avoid mouthing generalities

â??Men are undependable and selfishâ? â?? â??Women are too cattyâ??! Are you fond of making such generic comments? If you are, then you are definitely not ready for online dating services. You have to be prepared not to mouth generic statements about the opposite gender.

Pop quiz

Nowadays dating websites provide you with an opportunity to take a quiz to see if you are ready for online dating. Question asked could pertain to your past relationships and also your idea of fun. There are times when websites might also bring into play, questions about the level of intimacy that a person is comfortable with. Moreover, the questions would also be typically molded around the mental and physical state of the person who is looking for an online date. These questions would tell you without a doubt, whether you are ready to date or not. So, what are you waiting for â?? go for it! Take a chance and see what happens.

Getting ready for the big event of dating can be fun and exciting as the actual event itself. It also helps to instill self esteem as it makes you a better well-rounded individual.

Have you made up your mind with regard to internet dating? Are you looking for the perfect website? Well, don’t search far, just log on to Online Dating or Free Online Dating and join one free today and start dating.

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