Part 6 of 7 Series
Remember the manners you used when you were just out of high school: Do you think your manners are perfectly OK? Be warned when you have been married for some time it is common to get into habits that suit your wife. Was she always late? Did you know you neednâ??t be on time because she was always half an hour late anyway? Did she object to you opening the car door for her? What habits did you develop with your ex that maybe you shouldnâ??t take with you to the next relationship?
In a marriage situation, you became comfortable with each other and stopped hopping up whenever your wife left or entered the room. However with each new woman you meet you need to display the manners you were taught as a boy. Don’t take a woman for granted the way one does when there is a familiar air of predictability. Always ask, never assume you know what she wants or doesn’t want just because your ‘ex’ liked things a certain way.
It is easy to think all women want the same things. Never assume. Some women are really offended if you don’t open doors or pull out chairs for them, whilst others think it’s unnecessary, just never assume. Show consideration in small ways. Don’t assume you know what will make her happy. Let her tell you what she likes and doesn’t like. Surprises are best kept for women you know really well.
Start with a clean slate and have no expectations of what women want and don’t want because you will find they are all different. Just because your ‘ex’ was not punctual, don’t assume all women will be late or that she won’t enjoy the football or camping. Every woman is different so encourage her to talk about the things she likes etc.
Some women like to eat before a show and others prefer to eat afterwards. If you are planning to invite her to a dinner and a show don’t forget to ask her when she would like to eat. The woman who falls asleep during a show if she has had a couple of drinks will be just as disappointing as the woman who hates eating late because she has a big day tomorrow. When you know what makes her happy â?? you will be able to make her happy.
Dating Tips for Divorced Guys. The Complete Series is available at www.articlesbase.com and includes:
1Â Â Â If you find yourself at a loss for words on dates
2Â Â Â How to avoid baggage creeping into exciting new dating
3Â Â Â Seduction Can Be Easy
4Â Â Â Clothes Maketh the Man
5Â Â Â Beware! Donâ??t leave yourself open to be tricked, fooled or conned
6Â Â Â Remember the manners you used when you were just out of high school
7 Donâ??t rush into the next relationship
Rosalind Baker is Principal of Entre Nous Introduction
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Rosalind Baker’s professional commitment to ‘match making’ is well into its second decade, although she has always possessed that innate ability to pair people off. She even introduced her ex-husband to his next wife!
Having established Entre Nous: Relationship Consultants & Educators in 1991 she has now lost count of the number of relationships the organisation has helped to establish.
While there have been many ‘fly-by-night’ introduction agencies over the past two decades in Melbourne, Entre Nous has stood the test of time. This is due, in no small part, to the professionalism and passion of Rosalind Baker.
She has written three best sellers. The first, ‘Dial A Woman’ offers advice to Australian men on how to choose the right partner and then maintain a successful relationship.
The obvious sequel, ‘Dial A Man’ advised women on how to recognise and attract the man of their dreams. While writing her third book, ‘Dial a Personality’, she realised she had discovered the successful formula for matching couples.
As a journalist Rosalind has written extensively on social affairs and women’s issues and is a well-known social commentator on courtship.
Rosalind has been the delegate representing Australian and New Zealand at the International Institute of Introduction Services.
She is a keen follower of the Arts and supports Opportunity International.
She had four children and with her new husband, Tom Baker, they now have 11 grandchildren between them.