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Your Online Dating Profile – Get It Right – The First Time!

May 5, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Have you been trying to find a date with an online dating site but have had little luck in the online land of love? Well this could be because you have made vital mistakes when compiling your dating profile and I am going to tell you what those mistakes are. If you have an online dating profile it is important to avoid these mistakes if you are truly looking for love.

First things first! It is crucial that you use a picture of yourself. I know this should go without saying but unfortunately there are people out there that will use someone else’s photo on their profile. This is not going to help you find love. If you start off lying to the other person they are not going to be too open to the idea of a second date.

I would be surprised if they even went through with the first one once they realized you lied about what you looked like. You also want to avoid using pictures of yourself when you were younger, thinner and buffer. If you plan on meeting someone online then be truthful about yourself. Put yourself in your date’s shoes, how would you like it if you agreed to date someone you met online and their picture was taken ten years ago, I think you would be disappointed with the actual real life result.

Dating websites have a component many people do not consider when they join. Online dating chat rooms allow other members to see you on live video, and in real time, so don’t bother wasting people’s time by posting a picture of someone else on your profile in order to attract more attention. You are only setting yourself up for rejection. And besides, this kind of behaviour gives online dating a bad name.

Online dating can be a wonderful experience when people are honest. You should not want to meet someone that would not be attracted to a recent photo of you. If you can only get someone to go out with you because they think you look different then that person is not for you.

Another big mistake people make on their dating profile is saying mean and hateful things about race, gender, and ethnicity. You do not want to come across as a mean or hateful person. Even if you are simply trying to be funny do not put offensive remarks on your dating profile.

No one is attracted to a hateful person. You also want to avoid telling too much about yourself. It is important to be honest on your profile but do not over share. For instance rambling on about your last relationship or talking about your ex can turn people off quickly.

You also want to leave out any stories in which you are being violent, having sex, or getting arrested. You may find these stories amusing but most people will not. The worse mistake you can make on your dating profile is not being honest about yourself. Do not lie about your weight, height, age, gender, or income.

Do not put on your profile that you are six foot tall when you are only 5’6. When you meet someone they will realize that you are not six feet tall. If you are a construction worker do not put on your profile that you own a construction company. Be honest because if you meet someone having told all of these lies you will never find true love.

If you are seriously considering taking your love hunt online, visit our singles chat sites today and see what it’s all about.

Matt Fuller provides article services for various internet dating sites . Matt is also an online moderator for numerous American chat rooms and has been involved in the online dating industry for ten years.

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When Should I Not Date Someone?

March 8, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Very good question! There are actually times when you should consider not dating anyone! Why, you may be wondering can’t I date someone whenever I want to? Well, there are various times in a person’s life that involving someone in your own personal issues or problems is not a good idea. In fact, this may create problems for the person you are trying to date. You may be wondering what instances would you not want to consider dating someone, these tips will assist you in deciding whether or not you should:

1) You’re married! Absolutely out of the question for you to decide that you want to date. Married means you’re committed to someone else and you should be off limits to freely date. Remember you’re not single anymore! So, don’t even think about dating. This would be totally unfair to the person you may consider dating.

2) Just recently divorced. You may want to consider holding off on dating until you get readjusted to single life and your new status of now being unmarried and on your own. Once you give yourself enough time to readjust, preferably at least one year, then go for it! Start dating if you want to.

3) Lost your job and place to live because of your reduced or no income. There are a lot of people that are living together because they don’t have a home or job. So, the person they’re dating may decide to let the other person live with them. This is not a good idea and is not a good reason to date someone! Big mistake and most couples regret this later. In most of these situations, the person that supports the person not working and without a home, begins to have resentment. They feel taken advantaged of and used because they are now the primary bread winner for the person they are dating who is no longer working. Often in these situations, the couple really doesn’t know each other, and actually started living together after only a few dates. Consider giving the person you’re dating another alternative of having some where else to stay instead of with you!

4) You’re already dating someone you’ve been with for a long time. Don’t date someone else if you’re not willing to break off your relationship with your present girlfriend or boyfriend. You can play the field, but, let the person you’ve been dating know that you want to branch out and they can too. If you’re not ready to do this, then don’t start trying to date someone else!

5) You’ve just lost a loved one. It’s difficult when you’ve lost someone you loved. So, you may want to consider waiting awhile before you start dating someone else. It takes time for your heart to start healing. You’ll need time to yourself for awhile before you bring someone else into your life to date. This would not only be fair to you, but to the person you plan on dating in the future.

There are other instances that I’m sure you can think of when knowing whether or not you should start dating. Only you will know this. Dating for most people is considered an important element of their lives. When choosing to date, just remember the responsibility you have to yourself and others to ensure that you’re doing the right thing, at the right time, and what will ultimately make you happy and feel good without creating problems for yourself and others along the way!

Nocita Carter is a writer that designs websites providing informative tips at finance tips
http://www.personal-finance-tips-for-you.com & dating tips http://www.mydating-tips.com

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Worst Dating Mistakes Made by Men

March 1, 2010 By LoveEngineer.com Leave a Comment

Have you experienced one of those dating evenings where everything looked perfect, but then she didn’t look interested in a second date? Maybe you were not so good as you thought!

This article discusses common mistakes that men make while dating girls. (Women’s mistakes while dating is theme for another article.)

1) Men try too much to impress. Usually men try to impress their date as much as possible, telling her about his nice car, how much he earns, how much he has achieved at work, etc. Don’t try to impress by what you have, instead try to show what you are.

2) Men drink too much. This mistake seems to be quite obvious. You shouldn’t drink too much and make you look like an alcoholic, even if she drinks a lot too! If you use to drink at dates because it makes you feel more comfortable and relaxed, try to do it with measure.

3) Men don’t listen to women. Men talk all night about themselves, and when she talks he doesn’t allow her to finish and interrupts her. Try changing appproach and you listen to her. Ask questions and show interest in her. Women love it!

One big mistake is going out and spending a lot of time on a cell phone or a blackberry. If it keeps ringing, turn it off. Let your voice mail take your calls.

4) Men are not chivalrous. Many men consider that being a gentlemen is something from the past that is no longer important, useful or appreciated by modern women. Well, they are wrong. Women still appreciate men who are gentlemen, opening and closing the car door for the woman is an easy way to earn points. Men shouldn’t exaggerate though.

5) Men fail to take initiative. Women dislike when men don’t have ideas to offer, or don’t show motivation. If she wants to go out and share some time with you, you should never say “I don’t know what to do!” Instead you should propose some dating ideas and ask her to choose from. You don’t have to come out with the best ideas in the world, just show that you are making an effort.

6) Telling lies. This is a common one, unfortunately. Never play games with women. Sooner or later you will be discovered and her disappointment will be big. Most women appreciate a man who is sincere and stands by his word and action, and treats others the way they would like to be treated.

Most men never want to admit their mistakes. Sometimes admitting a mistake just shows you’re brave enough to acknowledge it, but creating a million excuses will not play to your favor.

Of course this is only general advice, and since every male or female person are different, it’s up to the couple to make it understood what they want or prefer. Communication will finally help the couple progress in their relationship, or have it finished because of lack of compatibility.

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