Below are top ideas or thoughts as to what makes a healthy relationship:

1. Likes to listen when you have something on your mind; This person will listen when you have a problem, and not brush it aside, or make it seem like it’s not that big of a deal.
2. Does not yell, scream or humiliate you in front of other people; Do you know anyone who tends to want to be drama and raises a big fuss when the smallest of things are bothering him or her?  This is not a healthy indicator of a person you should be involved in a relationship with.
3. Encourages you to try new things; he or she will think up new things for you to try. It actually enhances your relationship and keeps it alive.
4. Alternates between texting or calling you; this person does not call all the time or text all the time.  He or she has a healthy the number of times he or she texts or calls.
5. Does not accuse me of flirting or cheating. This adult believes in giving and receiving trust, and truly believes that his or her significant other is not out there betraying this delicate bond of trust.
6. Is very supportive of things that I do outside of our relationship.  This man or woman will not mind it if you have a hobby outside of the relationship.  Other hobbies can strengthen a relationship, and make it more interesting.
7. Understands that you have your own life, as well; people who are in healthy relationships have a balance, between their work, their social lives, and hobbies. A man or woman who can see how the different things his or her soul mate does outside of the relationship can help strengthen it, He or she will not be as likely to criticize any differences.
8. Does not get too jealous or possessive; men and women should have a certain amount of respect and trust for one another.  Getting too upset or jealous of the other person’s friends is not healthy and I don’t understand why people think this form of behavior is acceptable.
9. Is well liked by your friends; a great indicator, I have always felt, is if your friends approve of your significant other.  If they have strong reasons why they don’t like the person, there is usually some signal there that the person may not be suitable for you.
10. Doesn’t do things to physically hurt themselves because of you; in a healthy relationship, no one physically hurts themselves intentionally to get what they want. If someone is doing this, it is not a healthy factor, and the person acting out in this way should seek special help immediately.
11. This person will not constantly check up on you or makes check in.  I can only see manipulation in this type of behavior when someone checks up too often.  There should always be a balance of checking in, if people do decide to do that, and it shouldn’t be a constant thing.
12. Will not try to keep you from seeing or talking to your family and friends; family and friends often help keep your relationship balanced?  Why take your friends and family out of your social equation when they have helped you become the person that you are today?
13. Keeps an even mood; in the right relationship, there will be no extreme mood swings, getting extremely angry or throwing tantrums on you one minute, then being extra sweet the next.  Also, if this person is sweet and apologetic right afterwards, be very cautious.
14. Never makes you feel like you are “walking on eggshells.” Have you ever met someone who made you feel like you aren’t good enough? Have you ever met someone who criticized so many things you did in your life, that even if you had accomplishments, you now were no longer happy about them because of all the criticism?  If you have been treated like this, it is time to pull up your personal carpet, and move out. A healthy relationship thrives on praise, and the right person will make you feel special the majority of the time, not the opposite.
15. This person never makes you nervous; a person who makes you a little too nervous over time is not the right individual for you.  Sometimes when people meet they are nervous, but this is not something you will feel 24-7 as time goes on.

In courtship, as in life, you must make the best choices of what you feel is right for you, and who you will want to spend the rest of your life with. Here are some questions to help you make a better decision on your future soul mate.

Describe your relationship with your father and / or mother?
This is when you want to find out if someone was respectful, or obedient.  You want to take a look at the positive or negative view of their parent and figure out if you can live with this person, and his or her views regarding his or her respective parents. Find out the personal stories, and how those stories came to shape that person and his or her life.

How is self-centeredness portrayed in your life regarding your relationships?
This is where the rubber meets the road. By asking this question you find out if your future wife or husband is self centered, and by how much? You want to discover if this person can actually be more outwardly focused when it comes to you, your needs, and understanding another’s perspective outside of him or herself.

In striving for self improvement in relationships, what personal gains would you like to achieve or improve on in your relationship?
It’s asked when you see if the person has goals, and are they trying to achieve them. In another case, you could see if the person has a flaw that they are trying to work on. If all this checks out, then maybe you might want to help each other with your gains or personal aspirations.

Does your mother or father have mental problems that can affect the life of your future baby in your relationship?
It may seem like a tough question to ask someone, but what’s even tougher is if you didn’t know your future spouse’s history and your baby is delivered with a non curable birth defect. No addressed it, so nothing could be done to try to minimize or prevent such an emotional situation. Everyone has the right to know if they biologically have a chance to have a healthy baby. Don’t let pride stand in front of an unborn child’s life.

What types of situations aid your frustration level and how do you diffuse it in your relationship?
Once this kind of question is asked, you can begin to see if your mate gets easily frustrated, lightly frustrated, or nothing fazes him or her at all. Watch closely the way he or she talks to you after this particular question is delivered. The tone of voice, pitch, and length of the answer can leave an impression, too. This also lets you know if the person has the ability to problem solve when it comes to his or her emotions,

In your relationship, do you feel you have a teachable spirit?
In this circumstance you find out if your partner can take criticism, learn from mistakes, and build upon new ideas. Would you really want someone who isn’t open to new ideas and learning new things in the long run? You need to know if this person can listen to what you say, even if you are critiquing them, accept the delivery of the message, positively reflect on it, then honestly be okay with what you stated.

Are you a member of a church or how long have you been attending church where there are relationship minded people?
In asking this question, you find out if your mate attends church. Does your soul mate believe in God, or if he or she is an atheist (a non-believer). You could even discover more from this one question by asking if he or she serves in a ministry, and what are some of your partner’s other spiritual beliefs?