Some user friendly websites that I have found for internet dating are as follows: POF.com, Singlesnet.com, and OK Cupid.

POF facts you may want to know more about

POF.com (Plenty of fish) offers a lot of free features that one you may find very enjoyable are the chemistry match questions, search, online chat, the meet me section where you can click on photos of available singles, and trying out the ultra match section for free.  I especially liked the chat section because you can go in ask members who have been there awhile what they think of the site and how they are approaching their online dating.  They were all really very honest about how they were addressing online dating and gave me some good tips on how to approach the site even though a lot of profiles held inactive members. Some of the features you can enjoy if you upgrade are extra mail storage, access to ultra match, quality photo upgrades, see if your emails are read, and experience the site ad free. Some slight disadvantages to the site are a lot of people you may write to are no longer single or available, and simply forgot to delete their profiles, and there are only 7 pictures you can post to the site as a non paying member. A great amount of time is spent getting to know who is and who is not really there, and some humans just don’t respond at all. This doesn’t it any easier in finding live bodies to correspond with.  It is still a wonderful, delightful site for what it is, with a lot going for it.

Singlesnet.com features you may want to dive into further

Singlesnet.com (not to be confused with singles.net) is a really great site. For the plus side on the features, you can chat with someone live, email the gold members (paying members) for free, set up your email, view member’s profiles, and do a proprietary match. Other cool features are the sending a free flirt, save a contact, and instant message chat request. You would not have to make a chat request if you decided to become a paying member. One very whimsical element to this site is that the site will tell you if this person is more of your match a friend, or an enemy depending on how they answered their profile questions. It’s so clear as to who you would want to avoid by just seeing this percentage, as well. Someone with a high level of enemy rating would most definitely not be a good love match for you.  Some benefits to becoming a paying member, automatic chats, not requests, your profile becomes a gold member profile and it stands out more to other members, and you can send an email to both gold and non-gold members. A not so easy to use feature is the log in feature. Whereas most sites have their log in feature to the far upper left or right side of the screen, this site chose to put their log in information far down below all other material, center, in very tiny letters. It is extremely hard to see the letters, too. It does finally take you onto another page with the bigger log on information, but that step just makes it more time consuming.

OK Cupid; little things you might want to check out more

The site OK Cupid really cracks me up, first the name, then this wonderful lady named Cupidista (Meghan) comes and welcomes you to the site in an email. She even gives you extra photo slots just for being an active member in good standing. Others things I like about the site are that you have up to about ten photo slots and you can select people to view by your preference list, and email people without paying a single dime out of your pocket.  There seems to be enough singles on the site to write to, and you can even upgrade and know who has put you on their A list, or get more saved messages (over 300).  A special section called “you might like” is embedded underneath your main profile picture, and is super simple to use. One drawback to the site is that sometimes you can’t find out where to delete an older photo.  I had to write to support about that one. I am still waiting on a reply back, but other than that, it is an enjoyable and user friendly site.

When dating Engineers, it is not like dating a regular person at all. For instance, you may want to steer clear of fashion topics. Most engineers don’t care what they are wearing, as long as it smells relatively nice, is not sticking to them, they are fine with what comfort they choose. They may also have mastery in most technical subjects, and want you to know that, where as you might have first thought that they would actually want to connect with humanity or discuss an awesome social topic. They will most likely not bring the latter two subjects up; it is not in the repertoire of things important to them.

Risk versus Reward
Engineer might love rewards, and discussing them, yet they do not like to take risks. Risk to an Engineer may make them feel like it’s the kiss of death or the sum of an entire population coming down on him or her for something that didn’t work right in the field. He or she may bury themselves in an issue of technicality that is way too detailed to explain and extremely complicated. Therefore it will not be explained further. Rewards, on the other hand, remind them of how much people appreciate them, and it’s a good thing to reflect on one’s wins from time to time.

The topic of gadgetry
Engineers love gadgets. They won’t try the fix it till is not fixable method. Instead, they will look deep inside and see how a gadget’s features can be improved. They see what it would be needed for the object to be a super gadget. They always seek to find out how something might work, and literally spend hours figuring new ways to do things. So even if you mention “how do you think this gadget can evolve”, you can see the engineers eyes light up, and light bulbs going off in his head on how he or she will respond to the question. That person may also be trying to calculate how much you can absorb of the information. Engineers are also like walking encyclopedias when it comes to some favorite topics.

How to get an Engineer to fix something
Do you have anything in your cupboards or drawers that can be fixed by an engineer? Try stating “this is impossible to fix.” An Engineer will take that statement as a complete challenge. The mechanisms in his mind will immediately start flashing, and he will work on the problem till it is fixed or until he or she claims it doesn’t have the right elements to complete right now. No problem is too big to tackle, and no mountain is too tall to move to an Engineer. He or she will go without much food or good hygiene for days until the problem is resolved. An Engineer may even feel it’s a battle of wills against him or her, and nature. This type of human will feel that nature is not going to win any time soon over the object in question.

In matters of honesty
In general, Engineers are very honest. This honesty can even get to the point of brutal domination over a given subject. Make sure you keep your Engineer away from such venues as the media, customers, and people who just can take honesty. They say what they feel, and aren’t thinking, am I going to hurt someone’s feelings? What are the consequences of if I spin the question a certain way? He or she just thinks that the truth is what really needs to be stated technically speaking. I hope you have enjoyed this article, and have a better understanding of the Engineering mind, and what makes him or her tick.

I started internet dating again about a month ago. These are some things I have come to realize or are the opinions of my friends and associates. It is definitely a numbers game, the person you match with might not be the person you end up being soul mates with, and some will talk all day long on the chat line, yet never meet you. Also, try to avoid the smug people. They will frustrate you every time.
Online Dating Is a Numbers Game
Online dating is a numbers game. Wake up and smell the roses if you didn’t know this. You’ve got to keep on playing the numbers, till that one combination becomes the winning one, and you end up married to the person of your dreams. If you set your sights high, then you need to remember you are only going to be concerned about 10% of the people who write to you on a dating site. The other 90% are there to weed through, sort out, and throw away (delete the emails from the universe). It can be quite frustrating to walk through the mundane, but eventually you meet the right person, and you don’t wonder about the time the person was not in your life.
Sometimes There’s an Irking Earl lurking Around the Corner.
I’ve set my personal standards higher because I am seeking my soul mate at this point, but what I personally found ridiculous lately, is a particular guy, we will call him Earl. Earl shouts at me on one of the dating sites I am on. He seems really anxious to meet me, and we almost end up meeting the same day because we are getting along great online. There is genuine interest. However, after he leaves for a holiday, only 3 days later, I never hear from Earl again. Did I do something wrong here, absolutely not. Earl, I believe, is an online shout cosmonaut. He just shouts at people and he never intends to meet them. Is Earl a dating frustration, definitely! It’s time to pack up my bags and move on from cosmonaut Earl.
Where You Meet Someone, Mix It Up
A friend Tracy, age 30, is on one particular dating site. She has various new pictures, about 10 in all, all new and done up by a professional photographer, and even has a very catchy title, but does anyone catch her, no. It’s been about a couple of months and now she is starting to worry about it. What Tracy may not understand though, is that you can’t put your eggs in one basket. There are other places to meet people, and Tracy should be looking there, too. One can meet by a matchmaker, a coffee shop outing, a church, a meet up, all sorts of groups or networking events to name a few. Once you open up your horizons then the more likely the numbers game will work in your favor, and you are likely to meet the person of your dreams. Sitting alone in your room is not going to get you your soul mate. You must make some kind of effort, or your results will never be what you hoped for.

Smug People Have No Reason
Have you ever met some who thought that he or she was God’s gift to the world on the internet, and thought they were better than you? Wake up. This person is not worth your time, and I wouldn’t think twice about dating someone like this. People need to look at the whole picture of what they would like and need in a mate. Smug people might go around thinking they are better than everyone else. What they are really doing is hiding some insecure feeling that they aren’t that great in some area, or they wouldn’t be over projecting themselves. If you really do feel good on the inside and out you will not be trying to overcompensate when you are out there talking to people in the real world. I hope this article has given you more insights to the frustrations of online dating and things you can now avoid in the future.

Being on time is like a “high five”!

Have you ever been on date where you arrive on time, just as planned then someone calls you to tell you that they are running late or they have hit last minute traffic that they forgot to plan for? Think of how the person feels having to wait. It just starts to set a different non-positive tone to the occasion and the coffee party hasn’t even started yet.  Leave your house or place of work knowing the traffic patterns for that time of day. If you aren’t sure, check with a local radio station’s broadcast or look it up online. This not only saves the waiting time, it makes a very good impression on your date. Imagine both parties arriving on time, and how much less stressful it is when that magic takes place. 

Direct eye contact is the way to go.

In having direct eye contact, it shows you are interested in the person and gives off a positive vibe. If you can remember that keeping eye contact is also a way of making a connection with someone, it will help improve the situation. Even, if in your mind, there are over a 1,000 things you are thinking of, keep the focus on your date. It’s a win-win situation, and you will be happy that you decided to give that technique a whirl. 

Follow your intuition; don’t starve yourself.

Have you ever been on a coffee date, and your stomach starts growling at you in protest because you didn’t eat enough prior to the date?  It can be very embarrassing indeed.  Do eat a light snack or meal, so that wait in line is just that, and not a “roaring” contest with your tummy. There’s nothing wrong with sharing a sandwich if things are going well, but it is not advised up front when you don’t even know if you will have chemistry with the other person or not.

If you make a mistake, don’t worry.

There will come a time in someone’s life where he or she says the wrong thing on accident. If this happens, try to imagine that it didn’t, and learn from your circumstance. Most people are extremely forgiving, and understand how nervous a person can be on a first date.

Have something in mind for another meeting.

Whether you bring up that you would like to see the person again towards the weekend or wait a couple of days to call, think about places where a good conversation will work. A museum, a zoo, a sporting event, even an amusement park can be great second date events to keep the conversation flowing.  After spending time at one of those venues, you will probably have some highly fond memories of your time spent, which might in turn lead to more future dates.

American dating customs before the 1900s

After the Puritans set their sails, and landed in America, they established vigorous religious principles. Marriagebetween a man and woman during this era was seen more as a business deal instead of a loving commitment. Men brought security and wealth to the table, and women brought their dowries and the ability to produce children. Negotiations behind the scenes were made between the parents of the man and his future wife as to how the wealth would be decided, with very little input from the marrying couple.

Habits of dating during the 1930’s

Right after WW11, couples getting engaged, then married, was flourishing. The servicemen would return from their posts, to find eitheran old flame, or a new one, to propose, and walk down the aisle of commitment. During this time a letter from a serviceman’s sweetheart was considered golden, and many couples kept their letters in journal boxes. Later the couple’s would upon these treasured gems with extremely fond memories. During this span “necking” became the big thing, and many men took their dates to ice cream, or venturing out to dances.

Ritual dating during the 1940’s-1950’s: 

This particular time frame involved couples without chaperones. There was much freedom, less formal commitment, and peers had more impact on “the rules.” Instead of a man traveling to a woman’s house, they now went out and the man paid for the date at various establishments. Dancing was also becoming more main stream, and often couples went dancing together in groups. By the time 1950 arrived, couples were “going steady” which meant they were dating each other exclusively without the thought of marriage. During this time period, it was still unheard of for a lady to ask a man for a date.

Dating customs before the 1960s

Couples were now going out on dates with multiple peers until they found their soul mate. During this time, couples often exchanged letter jackets and class rings thinking that this expression within the relationship would further lead to marriage. These “letterman” jackets were quite popular, and the couples also were wearing them as a fashion statement.

Dating protocol during the 1960’s            

During this time, as the feminist movement grew, it changed the way we view dating and marriage once again. Loving duo’s now had shorter, casual rituals, as compared to yesterday when couples dated a long time. There was much sexual freedom during this time period, and females during this era would often choose college over being a good housewife. Formal dates were quite popular. This is where a boy would ask a girl to go out with him to dinner or the movies. For the seating arrangement in the movies, it was wise for a girl to choose the front or middle seats compared to the back seats. The curfew was usually set at “midnight,” during this era, and the men would open the doors for their women. At the end of the date at the front door, a short kiss was customary of the times.

Modern dating rituals

Sexual promiscuity is still very much prevalent, as well as young female teens who find it difficult to support their baby in this term. Group dates where couples date members of their group of friends are now popular. These dates can be simple coffee dates, or alcoholic beverage venues compared to yester year’s long evening outings.  Digital dating services have become all the rage in which men and women have met online. They have been able to view each other’s pictures, pictures, personality traits, and profiles.  Some of these couples have even married their soul mates through these online matches.

In courtship, as in life, you must make the best choices of what you feel is right for you, and who you will want to spend the rest of your life with. Here are some questions to help you make a better decision on your future soul mate.

Describe your relationship with your father and / or mother?
This is when you want to find out if someone was respectful, or obedient.  You want to take a look at the positive or negative view of their parent and figure out if you can live with this person, and his or her views regarding his or her respective parents. Find out the personal stories, and how those stories came to shape that person and his or her life.

How is self-centeredness portrayed in your life?
This is where the rubber meets the road. By asking this question you find out if your future wife or husband is self centered, and by how much? You want to discover if this person can actually be more outwardly focused when it comes to you, your needs, and understanding another’s perspective outside of him or herself.

In striving for self improvement, what personal gains would you like to achieve or improve on?
It’s asked when you see if the person has goals, and are they trying to achieve them. In another case, you could see if the person has a flaw that they are trying to work on. If all this checks out, then maybe you might want to help each other with your gains or personal aspirations.

Does your mother or father have mental problems that can affect the life of your future baby?
It may seem like a tough question to ask someone, but what’s even tougher is if you didn’t know your future spouse’s history and your baby is delivered with a non curable birth defect. No addressed it, so nothing could be done to try to minimize or prevent such an emotional situation. Everyone has the right to know if they biologically have a chance to have a healthy baby. Don’t let pride stand in front of an unborn child’s life.

What types of situations aid your frustration level and how do you diffuse it?
Once this kind of question is asked, you can begin to see if your mate gets easily frustrated, lightly frustrated, or nothing fazes him or her at all. Watch closely the way he or she talks to you after this particular question is delivered. The tone of voice, pitch, and length of the answer can leave an impression, too. This also lets you know if the person has the ability to problem solve when it comes to his or her emotions,

Do you feel you have a teachable spirit?
In this circumstance you find out if your partner can take criticism, learn from mistakes, and build upon new ideas. Would you really want someone who isn’t open to new ideas and learning new things in the long run? You need to know if this person can listen to what you say, even if you are critiquing them, accept the delivery of the message, positively reflect on it, then honestly be okay with what you stated.

Are you a member of a church or how long have you been attending church?
In asking this question, you find out if your mate attends church. Does your soul mate believe in God, or if he or she is an atheist (a non-believer). You could even discover more from this one question by asking if he or she serves in a ministry, and what are some of your partner’s other spiritual beliefs?

There are days we just need to keep positive and not cast doubt!!
Below are some great positive affirmations in beliving in your self worth,  betting your self esteem, thinking postive about your  relationship and that you are worthy of having a postive healthy relationship.

• I accept people as they are.
• I admire and respect my partner because …
• I allow love to find me
• I am a good friend; I deserve good friends
• I am all that I allow myself to be
• I am an attractive, happy person
• I am enthusiastic
• I am full of grace.
• I am fully receptive and appreciative for all the love that my partner showers upon me.
• i am in a beautiful relationship with a person who truly loves me
• I am in a loving and passionate relationship
• I am love, loved and loving.
• I am now in an ideal relationship with my perfect partner
• I am receptive to my partner’s romantic advances.
• I am receptive.
• I am treating those I love the most with love and respect
• I attract only healthy relationships
• I can and do what I put my mind, heart and soul into therefore I am
• I deserve to be loved fully and completely
• I give out Love and it is returned to me multiplied
• I greatly admire and respect my partner for all that they are.
• I have a wonderful partner and we are both happy and at peace
• I know that I deserve Love and accept it now
• I love myself and naturally attract Loving relationships into my life.
• I make friends easily wherever I go
• I possess great inner-strength.
• I rejoice in the Love I encounter everyday
• I release any desperation and allow love to find me
• I release any desperation and allow love to find me; I attract only healthy relationships
• I release excessive control. I live positively and let live in a positive relationship.
• I release the pain of my unpleasant experiences in love
• I verbalize my respect and admiration for my partner daily.
• My energy blends perfectly and beautifully with my partner’s energy.
• my perfect love partner and I are together in mind, body, and spirit
• My relationship is filled with love, passion, understanding and fun
• My relationship is strong, filled with love and trust

The current day and age, navigating the confusing and often contradictory world of dating rituals can be an intimidating and frustrating experience.

“Never call a man”, “Don’t ask a woman out, get her to ask you”, “Play hard to get”, “Tease her with small insults”, “Cook him a big meal”, “Don’t be too nice to her” and infamous “3 date” or “Two month” or “Six month” rules that schedule events as simple as “when to kiss”, “when to take a vacation together”, “when to propose”, etc. have ruined the spontanaeity and fun of dating. “Do this, don’t do that”. Whatever happened to the REAL purpose of dating: to get to know another individual, to let time take its course and fall in love (for how can someone not fall in love with anyone they enjoy spending time with and learn to appreciate?), and finally enjoying the feeling of being in love and being loved? Unfortunately, American dating rituals and modern customs have made this last, but seminal point of the whole ordeal: to meet and get to know someone you will want to love, almost moot.

Many advice columns and books tell you that if you follow certain rules or tactics, you can make yourself attractive to the opposite sex almost independent of who you are. While I believe it is true that looks is not a very important consideration when you’re looking for the love of your life (he or she may not come in the package you expected), what most advice columns and “dating method” tricks ignore is that you cannot magically make yourself attractive to another and build a healthy relationship with someone if

a) you are an uninteresting person on your own,

b) your life is not together, or

c) the other person’s personality clashes with yours.

In the case where you and your date’s personality clash, well, there’s nothing either one of you can do about it, so it is good to keep in mind when the dating process eventually arrives to its inevitable conclusion. But in this case you’ve both gained something out of the experience: you’ve met and gotten to know someone, and you’ve learned about yourself. If you handle things properly and the personalities are not insidiously incompatible you may have even won a friend. It is just a part of dating.

But in the case of items a) and b), you should ask yourself if this is the REAL reason you are unsuccessful at dating. Perhaps it has nothing to do with whether you called her on a Monday or a Tuesday. Perhaps it is not whether you cooked him fish instead of chicken for dinner on the 3rd date instead of the 5th date. But if you think about it, all your actions–when/if you call, whether you buy her flowers or a card, whether you pick her up or she meets you somewhere, whether you treat her with respect or tease her with insults, whether you kiss him, sleep with him, or just hug him,what you do and where you go during your dates, etc, ALL OF THIS, is a reflection of both of those items.

Is your life not together? Are you unemployed and can’t invite your date out to an activity that you will both enjoy? Do you have other commitments at home that require you to limit the time you have available for dates or cancel them while they are going on? Do you feel unhappy about where your life is going at this point in time? Are you in the process of moving away to some other location? Are you new in town? All of these circumstances and situations will affect how you date, and your personal situation will sooner or later become evident to the person you’re dating. If you’ve been smart enough to choose someone worthwhile to date, who has the same goals in dating as yourself (we’re assuming the only real purpose of dating is what we stated at the beginning: to meet and find someone to love), then when you don’t have your life in order they will immediately realize that investing in a long term relationship with you is probably a risky prospect. Many people might decide not to get further involved with you if this is the case.

Are you an uninteresting person? Are you negative, sarcastic, or a general buzz kill? Do you have angry outbursts? Are you selfish? (selfishness is the biggest turnoff for women, while neediness seems to be the biggest turnoff for men). Or perhaps you don’t have any serious personality flaws but your life revolves around work and TV (or work and videogames, which seems to be the Bay Area equivalent!). Do you have fun hobbies that someone else (i.e. your date) might like to learn about or share? Do you have an exciting social life that your date might want to participate in? Are you happy? It goes without saying that throughout the dating process both sexes evaluate what the other person brings to the relationship. If you are unable to contribute in an amount equal to what your date brings, chances are the relationship won’t go very far.

“Well, alright, these are all good points, but how does that help me when dating?” you might ask. Well, the biggest secret to dating is –that there is just one secret. And this one secret is this: Are you happy? It is this question that encompasses all of those items a, b, and c. above. If you are a genuinely, unhesistatingly, and enthusiastically happy, you’ll be an irresistible date. Everybody likes to be around positive, high-energy people who are confident and content with where their life is at the moment. Rules will suddenly not matter, because if you’re happy you’ll have the confidence to break or follow conventions and rituals according to what feels right for the situation. If you are happy, too, you will know when to let go of dates or situations that are draining, unhealthy, or are not leading you to where you want to go.

O.K., I forgot. There IS another little secret. And it is this: date only happy people. Yes, they are rare (because many people say that they are happy when everything in their life reflects that they aren’t), but when you find one, and you are happy too, I guarantee you that your dating experience will be all that it was always meant to be: wonderful.

by TechieGirl

Casual DatingDid you know that a man will decide very quickly whether you’re a woman he wants to get to know better and spend his time with – or not?

If you’re frustrated that he stopped calling or emailing after what felt like a great date or dates (lots of laughter, connection, interesting conversation), then you need to read this special web page I put together about creating andbuilding a strong and natural ATTRACTION with a man.

Bottom line – women who naturally know how to create this kind of attraction rarely have to worry about a man getting distant or pulling away.That’s because a man will feel literally COMPELLED to keep seeing you and being around you when you know how to trigger that “special” kind of deep attraction.

I’ve got to be honest with you about something here…

A while back I realized that even though another woman may read my newsletters or eBook, and “get” how men think, how attraction works, or what it takes for great communication to happen…

Still… there are some women who “get” all this but who are single, alone, and struggling just to find a great man to share their life with.

I can understand how the process of “doing the work” and still not being able to find the right man, let alone get things started and working in a relationship, can be incredibly frustrating.

I’ve thought about women in this situation a lot — women who are smart, attractive, great people who just can’t seem to make things work with men and dating.

And after reading literally hundreds of emails from women and taking a few years to observe what’s really going on… I’ve recognized a specific set of “problems” that keep most women from being lucky or successful when it comes to men, dating… and getting a relationship started that will LAST.

Here are just a few of these specific problems:

- Having no idea where to go to meet quality, attractive single men (or it seems like all the good men are already “taken”)

- Going on “dates” (which they dread in the first place) and having them either go NOWHERE… or having things go great on the date, but the guy never calls or asks you out again

- Seeing a man you’re attracted to, and wishing you knew EXACTLY what to do and say to get his attention without sounding dumb, goofy, or desperate

- Not knowing specific things to ASK a man to figure out very early on whether or not he’s honest, mature, and “into” having a real relationship… without sounding pushy, manipulative or scaring him off

- Never knowing the reason WHY a man stops calling or making plans after one or more dates, when there seemed to be so much “chemistry” at first (Just knowing WHY could save you from feeling UNECESSARILY bad because you’re wondering about what you did or said wrong)

Any of these sound familiar?

If so, then your life just got a lot easier… because I’m about to share the answers and insights to these problems that women run into while meeting men, “dating”, and trying to builda great relationship from scratch.

I had a big “Aha!” moment recently, and my realization was this:

Most women would be MUCH more successful with men and dating if they not only had their own “act together” as women… but they knew the specifics of exactly HOW, WHERE, WHY, and WHEN to do things with a man.

Such as… how to get a man’s attention, why he responds the way he does, and when to take things in the direction you want them to go in your relationship.

In other words, sometimes it’s just NOT ENOUGH to be a great person. You need to know how to SHOW him that you are.

Which means… if you don’t know how to say or do the right thing with a man to get him to
recognize what’s really inside of you, and who you are… then it’s all for nothing.

Now, some women have written me over the years and seemed to be looking for a “tool box” or a cheat-sheet that they could refer to for CLEAR answers to questions about real-life dating situations… and how to handle them.

And not having those tools at their fingertips was driving them CRAZY.

They were tired and frustrated with consistently meeting men who accidentally turned
out to have all the WRONG qualities… and they didn’t know how to identify and attract only the right men.

Of course, this isn’t too uncommon.

Have you ever thought you were really clear on what you wanted in a man and a relationship, and you found what you thought was a great guy… only to later discover that the man and the
relationship you had weren’t anything like what you thought they were?

This kind of experience can literally BLOW YOUR MIND and leave you wondering if you’re completely blind. Why is it so hard for YOU… when so many other couples have found each other and found happiness so easily?

Here’s the reality…

What you need isn’t a whole bunch of new life-lessons.

What you need are some real-world tips and TECHNIQUES that are going to help you quickly draw the right man to you, weed out the bad apples early on, and keep things growing so that the right foundation for a great relationship comes together quickly and EASILY.

And guess what?

It’s time you learned how to quickly go from “Hello” to “I love you” with a man, and enjoy
the process and build the foundation for a LASTING RELATIONSHIP at every turn.

And now you learn all this by simply watching the DVDs of this incredible program in the comfort of your living room, or listening to the audio in your car on the way to work. In no time at all you’ll start learning how to OVERCOME the dating frustrations that may be haunting you now.

So don’t keep trying what DOESN’T WORK just because you don’t know any other way.

here’s a way that works. Check it out for yourself right here:

www.albinafabiani.com/love.html

I’ll talk to you again soon,

Dating in a Struggling Economy

By Angie Peckham

Everyone wants love.  It’s a simple fact of life.  We like the idea of someone finding us so amazing that they’d rather be spending time with us than doing almost anything else (not that I can actually think of anything anyone would rather do than spend time with us, but you know the opposite sex – they’re slippery).

The point is, we are addicted to our mating ritual.  We crave the butterflies we feel at the beginning of a relationship.  We anticipate that first kiss and making sure the pheromones are all working the way they should be.  We dream about settling into a gentle game of playing house once the initial excitement has abated.  We love being in love.

Finding that special person to happily fall asleep with and slowly wake up with is complicated enough without the economy throwing us a curveball.  So what are we, the poor, the struggling, the unemployed to do?  Are we to sit at home in the dark, getting more and more depressed, isolated from workday human interaction and denied the experience of feeling those butterflies and playing house?

Some might think that if you are unemployed, you should not be out having fun at all.  They believe that you must spend all of your waking hours on your job search.  These people are normally amongst the employed.  We don’t like them.  What those naysayers fail to realize is that you need the human interaction.  You need the emotional and intellectual stimulation, dangit, and you need to get out and see the world once in awhile.

What you may not recognize, while you’re sitting around moping and eating everything in your fridge out of boredom, is that a struggling economy can actually be a blessing in disguise.  Just think – now you can date people with irregular schedules.

You know that fireman you’ve noticed when you’re out doing your grocery shopping?  The one with the shiny red truck and the large hose?  He has an irregular schedule, and now, you have a schedule perfectly suited to dating him.  The hot blonde behind the bar with the tight top and the great assets?  Guess what time she gets off work?  You don’t have to get up in the morning.  Therefore, you can handle her schedule, and then, if you’re lucky, her assets.  Think police, wait staff, DJ’s, musicians.  Your being unemployed has suddenly opened up an entirely new dating pool for you.

Now that you’re aware of the unemployment bright side, you need to figure out how to date on a limited budget.  This is the really sucky reality of unemployed dating, but it can be done.  Here are some things to keep in mind:

Be Honest – Be up front about your situation with potential dates.  If you have an online dating profile, make it clear that you are currently a victim of the economy, but that you are excited about your prospects for the future.  You will inevitably be asked what you do for a living if you meet someone in a social situation.  Have an answer ready.  Lucky for you, the economy is bad all the way around.  A lot of people have lost their jobs, and everyone knows someone who has been affected, so there are a lot of understanding and sympathetic people out there.

Don’t Spend – It’s very hard to be a social butterfly if you don’t have the cash to do so.  Do you have friends who play in a band or work in a bar or nightclub?  Have them put you “on the list.”  This allows you to get in for free and possibly meet someone new.  If you’re a guy, the pressure to buy someone you’ve met a drink can feel overwhelming, so decide ahead of time if this is the kind of outing you’re going to have.  If you’re a girl, you’re a little luckier, as someone will likely buy you a drink at some point.  Only attend free events.  Concerts in the park, exploration of the city, throwing some darts, going on a hike – all of these are fun, interactive and free or virtually free.

Even buying the gas to get to an event can be a struggle, so factor that into your costs when planning outings, and if you’re the one dating a financially struggling person, keep in mind the cost of having them come to you.

Get Active – We are no good to anyone else if we aren’t being good to ourselves.  The worst thing you can do for yourself when you lose your job is hide out in your house.  If you were on an exercise regimen before your situation changed, keep it up.  In fact, now’s the time to step it up.  You get to enjoy the gym when nobody else is there.  You get the bike paths to yourself.  You can go running at 11:00pm if you like.  It doesn’t matter what you choose.  Just choose something.  If you feel good about yourself, that vibe will carry and you will attract others.

Have Fun – When you’re out on a date, keep the conversation light and have fun.  Try to forget your troubles for a little while and enjoy the company you’re with.  Who knows?  Maybe you’ll end up seeing a lot more of them.