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Interesting Tidbits You Would Want To Know About 3 Internet Dating Sites

Posted on May 20, 2012 Written by Leave a Comment

Some user friendly websites that I have found for internet dating are as follows: POF.com, Singlesnet.com, and OK Cupid.

 

POF facts you may want to know more about

POF.com (Plenty of fish) offers a lot of free features that one you may find very enjoyable are the chemistry match questions, search, online chat, the meet me section where you can click on photos of available singles, and trying out the ultra match section for free.  I especially liked the chat section because you can go in ask members who have been there awhile what they think of the site and how they are approaching their online dating.  They were all really very honest about how they were addressing online dating and gave me some good tips on how to approach the site even though a lot of profiles held inactive members. Some of the features you can enjoy if you upgrade are extra mail storage, access to ultra match, quality photo upgrades, see if your emails are read, and experience the site ad free. Some slight disadvantages to the site are a lot of people you may write to are no longer single or available, and simply forgot to delete their profiles, and there are only 7 pictures you can post to the site as a non paying member. A great amount of time is spent getting to know who is and who is not really there, and some humans just don’t respond at all. This doesn’t it any easier in finding live bodies to correspond with.  It is still a wonderful, delightful site for what it is, with a lot going for it.

 

Singlesnet.com features you may want to dive into further

Singlesnet.com (not to be confused with singles.net) is a really great site. For the plus side on the features, you can chat with someone live, email the gold members (paying members) for free, set up your email, view member’s profiles, and do a proprietary match. Other cool features are the sending a free flirt, save a contact, and instant message chat request. You would not have to make a chat request if you decided to become a paying member. One very whimsical element to this site is that the site will tell you if this person is more of your match a friend, or an enemy depending on how they answered their profile questions. It’s so clear as to who you would want to avoid by just seeing this percentage, as well. Someone with a high level of enemy rating would most definitely not be a good love match for you.  Some benefits to becoming a paying member, automatic chats, not requests, your profile becomes a gold member profile and it stands out more to other members, and you can send an email to both gold and non-gold members. A not so easy to use feature is the log in feature. Whereas most sites have their log in feature to the far upper left or right side of the screen, this site chose to put their log in information far down below all other material, center, in very tiny letters. It is extremely hard to see the letters, too. It does finally take you onto another page with the bigger log on information, but that step just makes it more time consuming.

OK Cupid; little things you might want to check out more

The site OK Cupid really cracks me up, first the name, then this wonderful lady named Cupidista (Meghan) comes and welcomes you to the site in an email. She even gives you extra photo slots just for being an active member in good standing. Others things I like about the site are that you have up to about ten photo slots and you can select people to view by your preference list, and email people without paying a single dime out of your pocket.  There seems to be enough singles on the site to write to, and you can even upgrade and know who has put you on their A list, or get more saved messages (over 300).  A special section called “you might like” is embedded underneath your main profile picture, and is super simple to use. One drawback to the site is that sometimes you can’t find out where to delete an older photo.  I had to write to support about that one. I am still waiting on a reply back, but other than that, it is an enjoyable and user friendly site.

 

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Wise Advise For Dating an Engineer

Posted on May 3, 2012 Written by Leave a Comment


When dating Engineers, it is not like dating a regular person at all. For instance, you may want to steer clear of fashion topics. Most engineers don’t care what they are wearing, as long as it smells relatively nice, is not sticking to them, they are fine with what comfort they choose. They may also have mastery in most technical subjects, and want you to know that, where as you might have first thought that they would actually want to connect with humanity or discuss an awesome social topic. They will most likely not bring the latter two subjects up; it is not in the repertoire of things important to them.

Risk versus Reward
Engineer might love rewards, and discussing them, yet they do not like to take risks. Risk to an Engineer may make them feel like it’s the kiss of death or the sum of an entire population coming down on him or her for something that didn’t work right in the field. He or she may bury themselves in an issue of technicality that is way too detailed to explain and extremely complicated. Therefore it will not be explained further. Rewards, on the other hand, remind them of how much people appreciate them, and it’s a good thing to reflect on one’s wins from time to time.

The topic of gadgetry
Engineers love gadgets. They won’t try the fix it till is not fixable method. Instead, they will look deep inside and see how a gadget’s features can be improved. They see what it would be needed for the object to be a super gadget. They always seek to find out how something might work, and literally spend hours figuring new ways to do things. So even if you mention “how do you think this gadget can evolve”, you can see the engineers eyes light up, and light bulbs going off in his head on how he or she will respond to the question. That person may also be trying to calculate how much you can absorb of the information. Engineers are also like walking encyclopedias when it comes to some favorite topics.

How to get an Engineer to fix something
Do you have anything in your cupboards or drawers that can be fixed by an engineer? Try stating “this is impossible to fix.” An Engineer will take that statement as a complete challenge. The mechanisms in his mind will immediately start flashing, and he will work on the problem till it is fixed or until he or she claims it doesn’t have the right elements to complete right now. No problem is too big to tackle, and no mountain is too tall to move to an Engineer. He or she will go without much food or good hygiene for days until the problem is resolved. An Engineer may even feel it’s a battle of wills against him or her, and nature. This type of human will feel that nature is not going to win any time soon over the object in question.

In matters of honesty
In general, Engineers are very honest. This honesty can even get to the point of brutal domination over a given subject. Make sure you keep your Engineer away from such venues as the media, customers, and people who just can take honesty. They say what they feel, and aren’t thinking, am I going to hurt someone’s feelings? What are the consequences of if I spin the question a certain way? He or she just thinks that the truth is what really needs to be stated technically speaking. I hope you have enjoyed this article, and have a better understanding of the Engineering mind, and what makes him or her tick.

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Internet Dating Irks – The Frustrations of Online Dating

Posted on May 1, 2012 Written by Leave a Comment


I started internet dating again about a month ago. These are some things I have come to realize or are the opinions of my friends and associates. It is definitely a numbers game, the person you match with might not be the person you end up being soul mates with, and some will talk all day long on the chat line, yet never meet you. Also, try to avoid the smug people. They will frustrate you every time.
Online Dating Is a Numbers Game
Online dating is a numbers game. Wake up and smell the roses if you didn’t know this. You’ve got to keep on playing the numbers, till that one combination becomes the winning one, and you end up married to the person of your dreams. If you set your sights high, then you need to remember you are only going to be concerned about 10% of the people who write to you on a dating site. The other 90% are there to weed through, sort out, and throw away (delete the emails from the universe). It can be quite frustrating to walk through the mundane, but eventually you meet the right person, and you don’t wonder about the time the person was not in your life.
Sometimes There’s an Irking Earl lurking Around the Corner.
I’ve set my personal standards higher because I am seeking my soul mate at this point, but what I personally found ridiculous lately, is a particular guy, we will call him Earl. Earl shouts at me on one of the dating sites I am on. He seems really anxious to meet me, and we almost end up meeting the same day because we are getting along great online. There is genuine interest. However, after he leaves for a holiday, only 3 days later, I never hear from Earl again. Did I do something wrong here, absolutely not. Earl, I believe, is an online shout cosmonaut. He just shouts at people and he never intends to meet them. Is Earl a dating frustration, definitely! It’s time to pack up my bags and move on from cosmonaut Earl.
Where You Meet Someone, Mix It Up
A friend Tracy, age 30, is on one particular dating site. She has various new pictures, about 10 in all, all new and done up by a professional photographer, and even has a very catchy title, but does anyone catch her, no. It’s been about a couple of months and now she is starting to worry about it. What Tracy may not understand though, is that you can’t put your eggs in one basket. There are other places to meet people, and Tracy should be looking there, too. One can meet by a matchmaker, a coffee shop outing, a church, a meet up, all sorts of groups or networking events to name a few. Once you open up your horizons then the more likely the numbers game will work in your favor, and you are likely to meet the person of your dreams. Sitting alone in your room is not going to get you your soul mate. You must make some kind of effort, or your results will never be what you hoped for.

 

Smug People Have No Reason
Have you ever met some who thought that he or she was God’s gift to the world on the internet, and thought they were better than you? Wake up. This person is not worth your time, and I wouldn’t think twice about dating someone like this. People need to look at the whole picture of what they would like and need in a mate. Smug people might go around thinking they are better than everyone else. What they are really doing is hiding some insecure feeling that they aren’t that great in some area, or they wouldn’t be over projecting themselves. If you really do feel good on the inside and out you will not be trying to overcompensate when you are out there talking to people in the real world. I hope this article has given you more insights to the frustrations of online dating and things you can now avoid in the future.

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How to have a successful first coffee date

Posted on April 23, 2012 Written by Leave a Comment

Being on time is like a “high five”!

Have you ever been on date where you arrive on time, just as planned then someone calls you to tell you that they are running late or they have hit last minute traffic that they forgot to plan for? Think of how the person feels having to wait. It just starts to set a different non-positive tone to the occasion and the coffee party hasn’t even started yet.  Leave your house or place of work knowing the traffic patterns for that time of day. If you aren’t sure, check with a local radio station’s broadcast or look it up online. This not only saves the waiting time, it makes a very good impression on your date. Imagine both parties arriving on time, and how much less stressful it is when that magic takes place. 

 

Direct eye contact is the way to go.

In having direct eye contact, it shows you are interested in the person and gives off a positive vibe. If you can remember that keeping eye contact is also a way of making a connection with someone, it will help improve the situation. Even, if in your mind, there are over a 1,000 things you are thinking of, keep the focus on your date. It’s a win-win situation, and you will be happy that you decided to give that technique a whirl. 

 

Follow your intuition; don’t starve yourself.

Have you ever been on a coffee date, and your stomach starts growling at you in protest because you didn’t eat enough prior to the date?  It can be very embarrassing indeed.  Do eat a light snack or meal, so that wait in line is just that, and not a “roaring” contest with your tummy. There’s nothing wrong with sharing a sandwich if things are going well, but it is not advised up front when you don’t even know if you will have chemistry with the other person or not.

 

If you make a mistake, don’t worry.

There will come a time in someone’s life where he or she says the wrong thing on accident. If this happens, try to imagine that it didn’t, and learn from your circumstance. Most people are extremely forgiving, and understand how nervous a person can be on a first date.

 

Have something in mind for another meeting.

Whether you bring up that you would like to see the person again towards the weekend or wait a couple of days to call, think about places where a good conversation will work. A museum, a zoo, a sporting event, even an amusement park can be great second date events to keep the conversation flowing.  After spending time at one of those venues, you will probably have some highly fond memories of your time spent, which might in turn lead to more future dates.

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American Dating Rituals Throughout Time

Posted on April 23, 2012 Written by Leave a Comment

 

American dating customs before the 1900s

After the Puritans set their sails, and landed in America, they established vigorous religious principles. Marriagebetween a man and woman during this era was seen more as a business deal instead of a loving commitment. Men brought security and wealth to the table, and women brought their dowries and the ability to produce children. Negotiations behind the scenes were made between the parents of the man and his future wife as to how the wealth would be decided, with very little input from the marrying couple.

Habits of dating during the 1930’s

Right after WW11, couples getting engaged, then married, was flourishing. The servicemen would return from their posts, to find eitheran old flame, or a new one, to propose, and walk down the aisle of commitment. During this time a letter from a serviceman’s sweetheart was considered golden, and many couples kept their letters in journal boxes. Later the couple’s would upon these treasured gems with extremely fond memories. During this span “necking” became the big thing, and many men took their dates to ice cream, or venturing out to dances.

Ritual dating during the 1940’s-1950’s: 

This particular time frame involved couples without chaperones. There was much freedom, less formal commitment, and peers had more impact on “the rules.” Instead of a man traveling to a woman’s house, they now went out and the man paid for the date at various establishments. Dancing was also becoming more main stream, and often couples went dancing together in groups. By the time 1950 arrived, couples were “going steady” which meant they were dating each other exclusively without the thought of marriage. During this time period, it was still unheard of for a lady to ask a man for a date.

Dating customs before the 1960s

Couples were now going out on dates with multiple peers until they found their soul mate. During this time, couples often exchanged letter jackets and class rings thinking that this expression within the relationship would further lead to marriage. These “letterman” jackets were quite popular, and the couples also were wearing them as a fashion statement.

Dating protocol during the 1960’s            

During this time, as the feminist movement grew, it changed the way we view dating and marriage once again. Loving duo’s now had shorter, casual rituals, as compared to yesterday when couples dated a long time. There was much sexual freedom during this time period, and females during this era would often choose college over being a good housewife. Formal dates were quite popular. This is where a boy would ask a girl to go out with him to dinner or the movies. For the seating arrangement in the movies, it was wise for a girl to choose the front or middle seats compared to the back seats. The curfew was usually set at “midnight,” during this era, and the men would open the doors for their women. At the end of the date at the front door, a short kiss was customary of the times.

Modern dating rituals

Sexual promiscuity is still very much prevalent, as well as young female teens who find it difficult to support their baby in this term. Group dates where couples date members of their group of friends are now popular. These dates can be simple coffee dates, or alcoholic beverage venues compared to yester year’s long evening outings.  Digital dating services have become all the rage in which men and women have met online. They have been able to view each other’s pictures, pictures, personality traits, and profiles.  Some of these couples have even married their soul mates through these online matches.

 

 

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