Texting; Not Everyone’s Main Squeeze

Emotional Connection in Dating

I am not a fan of texting. If I give a man my number, (if he is lucky enough to get it) the very last thing I want for him to do is text me. I am very serious about this to the point of a making it a cause. Here is my reasoning behind this thought process:

Texting, not personal and no real reason
Yesterday someone I didn’t even hardly know texted me and asked me if I wanted to meet. I just kept thinking “why doesn’t he just have the courtesy to phone me and ask?” I feel a phone call or meeting in person is much more personal and is a special brand of caring. In person, you can see someone’s dazzling smile, sparkling eyes, and endless personality features that float over their faces as they are trying to express something. On top of this, instead of him respecting that I did not want to text, he texts back “yes, but it’s a common way of communication.” I really don’t compute or understand this, not by a long shot. Men pay special attention here; if a lady firmly states “I don’t want to text,” she is not kidding, she does want you to stop texting immediately, and it’s not some” sexual innuendo.” Furthermore, it’s not common. I kept thinking common for whom, Asama bin Laden? The man is dead, I rest my case.

Texting while driving, here is your wake-up call
To those who text while driving, I am not a fan. Believe it or not, people have died from doing this very thing. According to the Washington Post “A quarter of U.S. teens ages 16 to 17 who have cell phones say they text while driving, and almost half of Americans ages 12 to 17 say they’ve been in cars with someone who texted while behind the wheel.” Teens state that a lot of their parents also text while driving. Do you really want someone to care deeply and passionately about you to remember you by the last texted words “I love you” yet never be able to see that expression again in person? You couldn’t see the emotions pass on his or her face because now he or she is no longer with us as a living, viable human being. It’s a lonely world when you lose someone close to you. Don’t let the reason be because the text bug came and took the life out of you.

Sexting; not the new text craze
Sexting in this case is where you send asexually explicit picture images to someone’s mobile phone. This might work for married couple, but it surely does not work for single people. Many singles take advantage of this form of communication. Male singles take note; “it’s a huge turn off” to a potential mate. Not only will she view you as a “sex predator” she will not consider you for long term anything. She will immediately remove you from her inner circle at Google Plus or Zoosk, and no longer pay any attention to you. Only the really desperate would apply to your relationship card, and who in their right mind would want a needy person? “Needy people can just pack up their bags and fly home!”

Reasons behind texting, the truth revealed
Reasons why most people want to text are; “I’m bored, I’m lazy, and I can’t communicate well in person.” What is this really saying to a female? I am bored I’m lazy, and I can’t carry on a decent conversation in person. Listen up folks! Bored, lazy, and non communication should not be your idea of a potential mate. If you happen to get lucky, find someone that moves you, let there be a healthy balance. Have the person call you, hear the voice behind the face in a picture, and not a hollow empty text. Meet with the human; decide if he or she is worth your time, and seeing that person again after you have evaluated the person. After all, dating is an evaluation. If you want to meet someone of quality, be quality. If someone doesn’t like texting, understand there may be strong, legitimate reason why that person doesn’t like texting. We were all born beautiful, unique human beings. We don’t all like the same “pizza”, and we are not all cut from the same cloth. I really hope you enjoyed and got some real value out of this article. Feel free to ping, re-post and give your comments below. Enjoy your lives and Namaste!

Wise Advise For Dating an Engineer


When dating Engineers, it is not like dating a regular person at all. For instance, you may want to steer clear of fashion topics. Most engineers don’t care what they are wearing, as long as it smells relatively nice, is not sticking to them, they are fine with what comfort they choose. They may also have mastery in most technical subjects, and want you to know that, where as you might have first thought that they would actually want to connect with humanity or discuss an awesome social topic. They will most likely not bring the latter two subjects up; it is not in the repertoire of things important to them.

Risk versus Reward
Engineer might love rewards, and discussing them, yet they do not like to take risks. Risk to an Engineer may make them feel like it’s the kiss of death or the sum of an entire population coming down on him or her for something that didn’t work right in the field. He or she may bury themselves in an issue of technicality that is way too detailed to explain and extremely complicated. Therefore it will not be explained further. Rewards, on the other hand, remind them of how much people appreciate them, and it’s a good thing to reflect on one’s wins from time to time.

The topic of gadgetry
Engineers love gadgets. They won’t try the fix it till is not fixable method. Instead, they will look deep inside and see how a gadget’s features can be improved. They see what it would be needed for the object to be a super gadget. They always seek to find out how something might work, and literally spend hours figuring new ways to do things. So even if you mention “how do you think this gadget can evolve”, you can see the engineers eyes light up, and light bulbs going off in his head on how he or she will respond to the question. That person may also be trying to calculate how much you can absorb of the information. Engineers are also like walking encyclopedias when it comes to some favorite topics.

How to get an Engineer to fix something
Do you have anything in your cupboards or drawers that can be fixed by an engineer? Try stating “this is impossible to fix.” An Engineer will take that statement as a complete challenge. The mechanisms in his mind will immediately start flashing, and he will work on the problem till it is fixed or until he or she claims it doesn’t have the right elements to complete right now. No problem is too big to tackle, and no mountain is too tall to move to an Engineer. He or she will go without much food or good hygiene for days until the problem is resolved. An Engineer may even feel it’s a battle of wills against him or her, and nature. This type of human will feel that nature is not going to win any time soon over the object in question.

In matters of honesty
In general, Engineers are very honest. This honesty can even get to the point of brutal domination over a given subject. Make sure you keep your Engineer away from such venues as the media, customers, and people who just can take honesty. They say what they feel, and aren’t thinking, am I going to hurt someone’s feelings? What are the consequences of if I spin the question a certain way? He or she just thinks that the truth is what really needs to be stated technically speaking. I hope you have enjoyed this article, and have a better understanding of the Engineering mind, and what makes him or her tick.

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